Hey my name is Toni, i just ended my freshman year of highschool and like to give advice =) i figured if i started one of these i could help people since i havent done so in a while. Ask me anything and i'll answer you as soon as i can. =)
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Location: Mass
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Member Since: June 27, 2005
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Last Update: August 17, 2005
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Im a Lesbian! And I'm Your Friend! Have Sex with me?! (link)
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I'm Pregnant!(: (link)
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YEAH! boy or girl =o
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ok..heres the deal. i met this kid and i talk to him all the time online. he always says im cute, flirts with me and says "love ya" before he goes to bed. i went away on vacation for a week and i came home and he now has a girlfriend. i still talk to him and he still acts the same way..flirting and sayin im cute and all that shit. the ONLY problem is that ive started to like him. now i dont know if hes teasing me or not? so should i still talk to him and act the same way around him since hes not acting any differently and continue liking him or should i act differently and move on? i dont want things to change but i dont know what to do..can you please help me toni? thank you* (link)
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hes an asshole kid, try to move on. if he liked you like you liked him he would never have a girlfriend 7 days when you got back. if he was a guy who liked you he would miss you and stuff like that, uk what i mean... -toni-
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hey toni..
sometimes i get so worried about how many friends i have or like if im cool or not.. i dont know why i think this because its ridiculous.. idk maybe its cus im insecure with myself? i shouldnt have to worry if people like me or not but its sometimes wicked hard.. do you know what i can do to help this out? (link)
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everyone worries about that. i do too. but you shouldnt. its not rediculous but you or anyone shouldnt worry about it. i never listened to the phrase " dont change, just be yourself. " but after a while i relaized thats all u can do. theres no such thing as being cool. everyones different and everyone likes/hates someone. its just the matter of who your friends with and if they act the same around you in public as you do when your hanging out alone. -tOni-
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hey toni. wat do you do, wen a friend tells you she cant talk 2 you about certain things anymore, and rather call someone else? we are like sisters, tell each other everything, and i mean everything, and the reason i smile is b/c she makes it happen b/c she helps me so much. toni, please help! (link)
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well you musta got into a fight or something bad musta happen, cause if you were sisters or really good friends, then that definatly wouldnt of happened randomly.
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hey toni wad up..
right so i am in love with my xbf, we got together in march and then in april we broke up. now for the last three months hes been very confusing and we've been off and on and hes been an asshole at times, but even though hes treated me like shit i still love his personality and cant get over him.
it seemed like he still liked me up until two weeks ago but then he stopped calling me. he kept texting me though, so i didnt know what that meant. he texted me yesterday morning just kidding around, and i didnt respond.
then i ended up at the same place as him with a bunch of friends last night and he tried to say hey but i ignored him and he didnt try to talk to me for the rest of the time and when he left he said bye to me and thats it.
he didnt even try to talk to me or ask me if i was okay or anything. i dont know what he feels for me anymore, if anything. im pretty sure he doesnt care about me anymore but even so i dont know what to do because im still in love with him and ive been crying every day over this.
hey guess what this is TANYA. doesnt this situation suck ballsack? okay well ive asked a billion people what to do but i need more advice soooo yeah, peAcE toni
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oh man tanya. you and your guy life. from all the people you hang out with im sure someone will come soon enough for you to get over him. how many friends do you have? a lot? jeeze man you met my friend tayla at a party randomly. and ray too. who knows who else haha. talk to him about it.. and if he still is an ass then just dont run back. or, u could run over him with one of them horses. im sure he still cares about you.. but i think HIS ballsack is just taking over him at the moment. things hopefully will change, and if not.. then fuck him. no tanya, not literally. in other words, find out whats up his ass and let the boy know. then move on. to, ted. peace outt -toni-
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i have this problem where i feel like this one girl likes me but when shes with someone else she changes and it feels like she doesnt like me anymore and treats me like crap. how can i talk to her about this? (link)
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like, like u like you? or just as a friend. cause if its just as a friend look at the question below this, but if its in the other kinda way, then just ask me again and ill answer that for you. -toni-
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so i have like a friend who i love to death when we're together alone ... but she changes when shes with another friend and she changes toward me ... she treats me like im not there or like crap ... but shes really good friends with the other friend too and like when we're together shes my bff but when their together i feel like she doesnt like me as much ... how do i talk to her about this? (link)
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k i just got like the same question except worded differently about 4 times. so ill only answer this one so i dont have to repeat the same thing 4 times lol. if this happens with more than just one person then definatly talk to her. but if its with one person try not to let it get to you, the other friend might pull beign mean out of the one you love to hang out with and the one you love to hang out with dosent even realize what shes doing. this happened to me, and if you let it get to you or get mad they'll just keep doing it, but if you ignore it and not take it personally then they'll get bored and stop. idk if that made sense but it worked for me. -toni-
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lets see if you can help me with my problem. i have this friend who is mad at me and wont talk to me. who stays mad for six months? if she cant forgive me after that long was i ever really her friend in the first place? how do i get her to talk to me? and dont give me that bs about how i cant do anything about it if she wont talk to me... (link)
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im not. but you have to keep talking to her. even if shes away online or wont answer you back. or leaving messages on her voicemail. cause if you stop all together, when will she ever talk to you? or how will u know she will. -toni-
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hey toni, i always feel like i have to change myself to fit in. like it seems nothing i do or whatever seems to be right to them. like im sort of friends with them but i get the feeling they dont really like me even though i talk to them usually. i dont know what to do (link)
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k. i changed to fit in, and whoever this is you probably know that. Changing yourself to fit in with people is not the way to go. your friends will like you for who you are, and how you act, not how you dress or if your like them. why would you want to be like them? thats frikin boring. see, my friends liked me for who i was, and when i changed i lost friends. it was because i wanted to be like everyone else and i forgot about me. just like your doing, trying to change yourself to fit in to be friends with people. if you dont think they like you why would u keep hanging around with them... im pretty changed back, cause the summer is here and i just forgot about everything and started new, and now i have my friends back who i felt far away from, just from becoming me again. dont change though. -toni-
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you make me hott in the pants, what should i do? or "we" do? (and this is a good friend not some psycho child.) so its not sketchyy lol. if you think about it, you might be able to name me. i'm a girl, and no this isnt a lesbian request, i hope you realize i'm kidding. except, the heat in my pants doesnt lie when it comes to you. lol. after you respond to this i'll IM you and tell you who it was. (link)
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hahaha what the helll. why is there a "we" and not just an I. i'll be able to name you? and your a girl. not a lesbian request? hahaha kidding about what? im so confused. heat in my pants. this is obviously someone random. eirther one of my sisters friends or, my sister. orrr just someone, drunk.
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alrighty...i met my bf at camp and we get along great...he is like my perfect guy. He has been to third and i'v eonly kinda been to second. I dont know what to do...i dont mind goin farther but i dont wanna screw up, what should i do? Just try it and follow my instintcs or wait until i have masterstered it on something else..lol strange question but idk what to do
sincerly,
i dont wanna give a dummy a blow job! (link)
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id say just go with it haha, guys will be guys. -TOni-
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aright heres the deal...me and my boyfriend have been goin ouyt for almost a year and he wants to go all the way...now i dont think im ready plus i was taught this year in sex ed. that sex sometimes hurts your relationshipo and i dont wanna lose him....i know hes the perfect guy for me and im the perfect girl but idk if like hell dump me if i dont do it so i just dont know what to do here....please help..... (link)
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if your not ready, then your not ready. thats somethin you should definatly think about before you do it. and if he dosent take that fact that your not, then he's not a good boyfriend and that just tells you something about him.. just remember no matter how long you have known someone, sometimes you dont even know them at all. and if you lose him, there will always be someone better in the end. someone who u wont lose just cause of that. i mean a years a long time, but sometimes time dosen't mean anything. -Toni-
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But wait. to me, this seems like you never really met before, or you havent talked a lot before. and your both just scared. is that the case? -Toni-
no. no. not the case, we know each other very well, i've known him for years. but i dont know, we went out once before a couple years ago. and i dont know, maybe nothing can ever go back to how it was, like since we broke up before..maybe there are still lingering feelings? i dont know, i cant figure out whats wrong. it could be our past, like he cheated on me, but im willing to forgive.and give him another chance, so i dont understand what can be effecting our "relationship" not that its really anywhere yet.but maybe i still seem angery somtimes when i talk to him? im not sure. and thats the other thing, im not really shy around him since ive known him for so long. so hm, its a weird situation i guess. (link)
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it must be something that happened in the past. or something must be up with him. another girl maybe? i dont know you have to talk to him about it. prolly online lol, or you could call him, but even i wouldnt do that. tell him your willing to forgive him if thats why he dosent wanna hang out or be with you. i cant.. but wish i could read peoples minds. then i would fix this for you lol. how rediculously awesome would that be. walkin down the street. and some guy walks by you and goes. damnn id tap thatt. and then you turn around when he passes and go, tap what biatch? haha, but anyways. talk to him. best thing you can do -TOni-
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ok toni, im not gonna say who this is for obvious reasons, but i have a problem. alright so i like this kid and his nmae is brendan. everyone knows him and everyone loves him. hes just one of those guys and hes the best guy that i have met in a long imte but idk what to do. like i always wanna hang out with him and stuff but im scared to ask. i know that your gonna tell me to like follow my (link)
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i definatly know that feeling. honestly, you just have to take chances. you cant keep talking about it, cause nothing will happen. its true and i know your reading this saying i cant do that, i cant take a chance, im too scared, but thats all it is. takin chances and hoping for the best. you know? see, when i used to look like a little mexican boy, obviously no american boys were gonna like me ;) i mean who would do that. honestly. but after time, guys did like me. which was weird, i know, but it was for who i was. if you told him you liked him, and he ignores you and dosnt talk to you, you really cant worry about that. guys will like you for who you are, not if your one of those "girls". i have seen ALL my friends get hurt from this, but afterwards they find someone else. and or they have their friends make them better. i mean if your scared to ask him to hang out.. get a bunch of people to hang out together. then it wont be as hard for you to ask. hmm.. this is a really tough situation and if i was dr. phil id think id be better, but im only Toni. and i wish i could make everyone happy. but i cant =/ just remember what you want isnt always what you get, but in the end what you get is definatly a lot better than what you wanted. -Toni-
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i like this kid & he likes me. but we never seem to talk other then online, so yea i guess its not really going anywhere. we always make plans to hang out, but somthing always seems to go wrong. maybe gods not on my side, lol. well what should i do? i suck. maybe thats the answer. (link)
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no you dont suck lol . keep talking to him/her and keep making plans. cause if him/her is making up exuses to not hang out with you, then sooner or later they will run out lol. But wait. to me, this seems like you never really met before, or you havent talked a lot before. and your both just scared. is that the case? -Toni-
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ok...well i've liked this kid for almost a year...and i thought i loved him but then i started liking this other kid? then one day i dont think i like the kid ive liked for almost a year anymore...but then i see him and it makes me wanna cry because i cant have him? and ive been trying for this guy for a year..and its not working? so should i move on...or feel the same way? please help tonz... (link)
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if i were you i would try to move on. even though the both of us know thats gonna be tough. but would you rather try to be happier or keep going with a guy you havent had and be sad all the time whenever you see him. See what happens with the kid u just started to like. maybe things will be different -Toni-
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so i have this friend lets call him ziek.well ziek and i are best friends and everyone keeps telling us that we look sooo cute together and well i just dont listen,well heres my problem. well now im starting to look at ziek more and more and i starting to like him more and more but not just cause i think hes so cute but because i like our friendship,and i just dont know if im really like "hott"or"pretty" enough for him...what should i do zagami? (link)
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this one is up to you. but if you like him then talk to him or flirt with him more than you would. but remember this. it dosen't matter what the hell you look like. guys will like you for who you are and if not then obviously it's not gonna go anywhere. -Toni-
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It's me again. Yeah, my friend is hooking me up with her boyfriend. I have no clue what to do about it...help please! (link)
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haha that is the randomest thing.. why would she do that? hmm.. weird. hook you up with the kid shes goin out with? if i were you id say no. and tell her you wouldnt do that to her. even if she let you. cause she would use that against u one day. If you got into a fight. Plus i personally would never do that to one of my friends. -TOni-
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Well i'm not sure if this is under friendship or love life cuz it is kinda both. I've been best friends with this kid for a while, lets call him Mike. In the beginning we were just friends but he knew I liked him, and like he had this wicked sweet poem in his profile about a girl..and I found out it was about me. We didn't rush into a relationship because we figured we'd become closer friends first. We always flirt with each other and stuff but he also has a lot going on in his life, like with his family and stuff, so we never went out cuz of the stress and he didn't want to add the stress of having a girlfriend, which was fine. But a couple of weeks ago we got in this big fight because he hung out with these people that are a lot older than us at his house without his parents home. And then when we were fighting he told me that even if he did have a girlfriend it wouldn't be me and we are just friends. This obviously made me wicked sad because I didn't see when it went from us not going out because he has a lot going on to it being like me. I don't know if he only said that because we were fighting or cause he really meant it, because I have my own section on his buddy list, my own ringtone on his cell phone(which is like a love slowsong, which we have a lot of songs that he says reminds him of us)..and he calls me a lot, especially late at night. I always talk to him on the phone until like 1/2 in the morning! To me it seems like there is still something there to be more than friends, but its still because he has a lot going on. I don't know if I'm misinterpreting things and it really is just cause we are best friends. I don't know what to do anymore, should I continue to flirt like I normally do? or should I just step back and give him space and just be his friend and see where that takes me? Sorry this was so long, I hope you can help... (link)
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haha no worries. well personally, this is what i think. everyone who has a guy best friend, has feelings for him once in their life. and thats the same both ways. and no matter how much you fight about you goin out, or him liking you, or you liking him, you'll still always be best friends. you dont have to stop flirting with him, cause it wont hurt if you do, but u can give him a little space. but dont back away too much so that space that you left turns so far that he wont even talk to you anymore. i know that sounds forever gay haha, forever gay? wtf.. lol but it happens. and if you want.. watch this big word.. nonchalantly put a poem in your pro about him who knows what will happen. and why dont you call me till 1 in the morning =( what am i not cool enough or something? pft. thanx. =P hope things work out, and anything else just drop a question. k? Love whoever you are. -Toni-
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