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18/f
my life is average i guess.
short story on my life- i live with my dad. my mom got a new job and moved across the world. but my parents are still together. just dont live together. i have a boyfriend. been dating for almost 7 months. i'm in love with him. we had a rocky start (many fights) but we worked it out and things are better now. I don't have a lot of friends. 1 best friend and a few other friends. I play a sport. My grades are good. (mostly A's and B's) I'm interested in a bunch of things varying from photography, art, listening to music, video production, cooking, writing etc.
so basically. my life is average. its ok. except... i find myself sad a lot. there are times when i just cry for no reason. If i'm home alone, i'll start crying for a little bit. and then i'm ok. if i'm out hanging with friends, they will be laughing and having a good time and sometimes i find myself to be distant and space out feeling a little sad.
what is wrong with me? i dont think its depression because i dont have thoughts of suicide or self harm. i dont think i HATE myself.. i just get sad sometimes. I'm not really sure why.
oh and this isn't really a thing i can talk to with someone. My dad wouldn't be any help, trust me. my boyfriend would just make things more confusing and difficult (its happened before. he thought i was sad because of our relationship and we were close to breaking up) my best friend doesn't really help either (ive gone to her for help before and majority of the time she makes absolutely no difference)
i just don't know why i'm sad. its not like my life is a giant disappointment..i just. feel sad. gah.
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Firstly, nothing is WRONG with you, really. it's okay to develop these feelings sometimes, even if you're not sure why.
Secondly, you don not have to be suicidal to be depressed, and it certainly sounds like you're suffering from a case of depression. It's a big stereotype that all people cut themselves, ro try and overdose if they are depressed, but really only a certain percentage of depressed people do. I'd recommend talking to your doctor about this, and if you feel like they aren't helping you because doctors can be very useless, phone a hotline, like samaritans, or something similar. you don't have to be suicidal or anything to phone these hotlines. Really, just talk to them, and maybe they can give you better advice.
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Hi I'm Bailee and I'm a cutter, I am 14. I have cut for..two years and I have recently stopped. I, for the longest time, cut heavily. My arms so badly scared that I can barley fine any unscared skin. I want to know if there is a way to get rid of them so I can wear short sleeved shirts. I do realize that I'm gonna have to live with them for the for the rest of my life. I don't want any bad talk or put downs.
Bailee~ (link)
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First of all, it sucks that you went through this, and I'm sorry. Secondly, the scars won't go fully, but you're going to have to learn to wear short sleeved shirts anyhow. it may be uncomfortable, but remember that people who judge you for your scars aren't worth trying to please.
Use bio oil. It's a little expensive, and it takes a while to work, you'll have to rub it consistently on your skin, but it will considerably help it to fade.
http://www.bio-oil.com/uses.html
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im really attacted to my good pal aaron...he makes e feel special when he says hi....i cum n my pants everytime he high fives me in the hallways and i dream about him rding unicornsbutt naked every night...how should i tell him how i truely feel (link)
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right... er, just wait for the right time, stay close friends till then.... and if he responds positively, have fun riding himunicornbutt naked every night.
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okay I have had almost everything pierced but my most recent one is the monroe and because I re pierce it in the same spot all the time it started to get a keyloid(i know that's spelled wrong ) but I was wondering what facial piercing would look, good wit a tounge ring? I don't want to get something that clashes with my new tounge ring any suggestions? oh yea ima girl. (link)
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lip piercing? corner of mouth, i'd suggest the left side. eyebrow piercing, those can look nice.
Key is simplicity. The more piercings you have, the simpler each item should be. it will inevitably look tacky if you try and make really elaborate jewellery fit on your face, if you've got more than two or three piercings. Plus it'll take the focus away from your features, which i'm sure are beautiful :)
http://media.photobucket.com/image/girls%20face%20piercing/Kerinauu/04210917402.png
or this is a good list of different types, try this;http://hubpages.com/hub/Face-Piercings
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okay i love my girlfriend and im 14 and shes 12(bout to be 13) and we get all lovey dovey n all that but she took a pic of me while i was sleeping and when she was tlking to one of our friends and my friend made a joke bout raping me in my sleep (dont ask) and she said no she probably just watch me....is there anything bad that can come from this? or any side effects or something (link)
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Dude, she's twelve. She probably just adores the fact that she has someone around her who she CAN talk pictures of. Also, is it really making you uncomfortable that she watches you whilst you sleep? it's not like she's staying up, JUST to watch you.You can't get side effects. You're both young, and things may move faster than you'd expect, just take it as it comes. dont' do anythign you'd regret.
and her friend was just joking around, don't take it seriously, me and my friends do it all the time.
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I'm a very good girl and I had sex forthe first time last week. I have not had a period for like 3 months (idk why) and I am not on birth control. He came in the condom and then kept thrusting in me and the came more in te condom but never came in me. Then he kept going with another condom on and didn't cum. then we waited like 30 minutes and had sex again I gave him head( could Taste a little cum) and then he put a condom on and we had sex. He didn't cum. But he took the condom off and went inside again and didn't cum again. Is there anyway I could be preggo ? (link)
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I highly doubt it, if the info you gave me is correct. You can't get pregnant from oral. he used a condom, and he didn't come.
If you haven't had a your period for a while, don't worry too much, although next time you see your GP,mention it, and see if there's any cause.
A lot of young women have highly irregular periods, even I do, don't worry.
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i came up with loves not a maybe thing,you know when you love someone (link)
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i had to re read the question, but i think what you came up with sounds good, for an aim message, or if you still want help, just google away quotes, there tends to be a lot of that on google.
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what is im (link)
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I.M?
If you mean, what i think you mean, then it's short for Instant messaging, like MSN, and stuff. If you're still not sure, use Urbandictionary.com to explain it.
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I just feel so alone. I feel lonely, depressed, empty, lost. I feel like I'm worthless. I feel like I have nothing to live for and that I'm not special to anybody. Even with my friends, I just feel so empty. It hurts so badly. I find myself staring into space with tears in my eyes and typing things like "i'm so alone" or "it hurts" into Google. I lost interest in things I usually love to do, like play videogames and draw and read. I'm blaming myself for things that I know aren't my fault. I have trouble sleeping. I wake up each day with nothing to look forward to. It's like I'm walking on a treadmill. I'm tired and exasperated. I feel like there's a demon clawing and scraping away every bit of dignity and peace I have. I want to scream. Could this be depression? If so, what are my options to get rid of it? It hurts a lot. :( (link)
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go to a doctor, and ask for a secodn opinion. i am pretty certain this is depression, but there are numerous causes and treatments for it, and unless you talk about it to a professional, you'll get the wrong treatment, you'll feel worse, and it won't solve anything.
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This is it. My depression this year has doubled (if that's even possible) and I really need to see my doctor about it, only that I don't like my doctor because I think that he is a dick. And most medications I've heard of requires you to be 18 and I'm only 16. I know that excercising is an alternatives but I don't have time to go out (and I'm not even loud to). I'm always busy with school work but when I'm out I tae alternatives like stairs, etc.
I don't know what I'm asking for, maybe on if you think I should talk to my doctor about it anyways. It's really hard for me to talk about because I start welling up and crying (like I am now), but I'm not talking. But if I had to, I don't think anything would come out.
And I want to keep it away from my parents but I don't know how because only they can take me to the doctors and the secretary would need to know what I need to see that doctor for. And that my parents are dumb because they think it's impossible for someone in our family to have depression and that they think that it would be something else. (link)
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hey. so coming form my own experiences, i can only tell you to do whats right. think about it logically. i have severe depression as well, and i find it clouds my judgement a lot. i try to do the things that scares me, which is a lot, because even goign to school scares me a lot. i know you're scared of what you're doctor will think, but think about it. what does it matter what he thinks? he's a medical profesional, and they have a job to do. trust me i know its scary. my doctor is my moms friend, because my moms a doctor as well. and i know you don't want your mom to know, but what i did was ask for a doctors appointment, but not tell her why. your parent should care enough to take you. and i know you think your parents think you can't have depression. i've tried to tell my mom but she refuses to believe it, even though she's a doctor. just think about it rationally. it REALLY DOES NOT MATTER WHAT THEY THINK. DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU, trust me, it will be so much worse if you do things for others, not for yourself. also, i've spend a lot of time doing pysch, and i know that there are types depression that don't seem ovbious. there's one called Smiling Depression, where the person may not evev realise, so it's less obvious to those around them. your doctor should be competent to realise that seeing you for a short amount of time 3 times a year isn't enough to tell whether your depressed. go for it.
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I'm a girl in 8th grade, (13) and I like this boy in my grade but he has no idea who I am. What do I do. (link)
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find something that he likes, that you both have in common, e.g. extra curricular. talk to him, and introduce yourself. don't get put down if it takes a while for him to catch on. lets face it, guys can be kinda slow sometimes.
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I can't bring myself do do school assignments. I know I have to do them and I know the consequences of not doing so.
But I still INSANELY procrastinate. In the back of my head, I tell myself that I still have plenty of time to do it, even when, at the same time, I know I don't. Today, I spent the whole day playing video games and watching TV. Even though I have a project do do, 40 pages of reading, etc. due by Monday.
And when I DO actually get around to doing the work, I never EVER just work on it. I'll do half a math problem, then spend half an hour on the internet.
I don't even have trouble with any school subjects. So it's not that I'm avoiding them because I don't think I can understand the assignment.
Fact is, I'm lazy. I'm a procrastinator. I am the anti-workaholic. (Unless I'm doing something I love. Then I fully commit to the project)
How can I overcome this and get my goddamn act together?
Because although this is not affecting my academic performance, it is SERIOUSLY stressing me out. I'm always studying for tests or doing homework assignments on the bus ride to school, or in class. (link)
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you're pretty much the same as me, but i have slightly different reasons. my method is to find something i love about it. for example, i had to this god awful essasy on macbeth, and it counted as my coursework. so i tried to find something that really interested me. i would talk to myself, and debate over bits of the text, so that i found a reason to keep writing about it. i tried to comprehend the question, and think about how it applies to me, and the things i like. obviously, you can't always do this, but when you have a math question you hate, just think about something you do like, like the kinda future that you want, and think how this could help you.
for instance, i like to think tat by maintaing a good grade, it'll help me get a good place at university, so in the long term it will help.
it sucks that i porcrastinate so much, so i know it must really annoy you, but don't get put off. don't convince yourself that you're just lazy. just think that you need motivation, and thigs will get easier. good luck
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hey, so i'm doing some research on small bands. the kind of music im looking for are indie, rock, punk, kinda bands. The only necessity is they need to be young/ high school age. im writing about breaking into the music industry. what i need are a list of any and every band that are producing their own origanl music. whether its on youtube, myspace, etc. i'd like to either get in contact with them or be able to see their work. it's suprisingly hard to find small, unheard bands. i don't want bands like all time low, because as much as you might like them, they are famous. so basically and bands, even if its your bands, or your friends. that would help me SO much, so yeah, thanks (link)
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Everyday (practicly) i go to school with my hair straitend. I have hair thats down to my showlders, i dont want to grow it out, but i want more ideas that i can wear to school, sometimes i put my hair into low pigtails but i want more ideas..? can you help me? (link)
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i know egtting a hair cut seems drastic, rather than just styling it, but try getting layers, because you said you starightened your hair, and if you get layers, it's lw maitenince, and it always looks nice, even if you curl the tips, to make it look different.
gd luck xxx
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OK as follows: If i and he, oh my God I like him immediately if he is like me and love me please answer i want you to find Reddit all, like I do not know dear, this problem is in my class, but this guy (link)
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sweetheart, you are makin no sense. try again, okay?
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okay so i am a female and 15 years old.i have a boyfriend for about 2 weeks, my boyfriend is 17. we have been hanging out for a month now and i know it may be soon to be talking about his problems with depression and what not. but, i just wish i knew how to help. i went through depression and a eating disorder. but i try to help but i dont know what to say. i just wish any words that would come out of my mouth could cure him. but of course things dont work like that. i am now starting to do some research on depression. i dont want him to feel depressed. i know how it feels. you feel usleless, unloved, you sometimes hate your self. you are very hard on yourself and you feel helpless and hopeless. please some one help me. i want to be able to comfort him a little.. (link)
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distractions. when you're with someone who is happy and always makes sure you are happy, then its easy to forget about your depression. distractions, don't always mean doing crazy things, just talk about fun stuff, make them feel included in what you do. don't give him a chance to let any bad thoughts enter his head. i know its hard, but unfortunalty depression is almost as hard on the people around them, than the person themselves. as im sure you know. good luck xxx
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Okay, so I am a 10th grader. Last year there was this girl in one of my classes. Like we weren't friends or anything. Apparently she's pretty popular but i dont know and i dont care Like I've talked to her about school things.. and I think like general things.. like occasionally but I wouldn't call her my friend, at all, lol. Like i dont know how but she looked me up online on some site and found a few nicknames I have that I wrote on it. and I was wondering why she looked me up in google in the first place.. I still dont have that answer. So she was like thinking it was embarassing and stuff when she said it during class, probably,.. when it wasn't. there were like 3 other girls with her in that posse.. well like a class-posse. one of them was just a follower.. essentially a tool. she's on my bus and she bugs me.. people who are like that, sheep, bug me. the other like she was the type of girl like im sure she was making fun of me and also one girl in the class i'd talk to.. i guess i can call her my friend but we're really different and i dont like a lot of the things she does.. but she was someone to talk to in that class basically. we used to be closer but she changed. then there was one other girl.. er.. i forget what she did, but she was there too, lol. ANYWAYS, the main thing is the first girl i was talking about. okay so that was last year and i havent talked to her since.. and then all of a sudden this year she keeps randomly saying hi to me in the hallways. usually when shes around friends. like i have volleyball after school and she has cheerleading so its usually then and she like says "Hi/hey [mynamehere]!" and its like totally unexpected. and i check to see who's saying hi to me and when its her its like wtf cause im not friends with her or anything.. like it catches me off guard so i just act like it didnt happen and ignore it. like today i was in the middle of class taking a quiz and she like does it again in the hallway too when she was in a diff class. like i dont know what to do. like i cant just ignore it.. like if she truly wants to be my friend which shes currently failing at then i dont get why she'd do that. but im assuming shes just trying to make fun of me or something so how can i put an end to this? i dont want to have friends who do stupid sh** like this anyways. i like when people are straightforward. like i was going to send her a message on facebook but i dont know what to say or anything.. or should i say something IRL instead? please help me guyssss. thanks. (link)
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don't do anything whatsoever, she's not making fun of you. by responding to her, its letting her know you register her, which is giving her what she wants. ignore her completely. if she is honestly trying to be friends, then you'll find out her intentions.
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18/f i got the worst present ever off my bf of 6 months. I actually am so embarrassed by it and my parents thought it was completely wierd. It is a real boyish type thing aswell, its something he likes and i have no interest in at all.
He was so excited to give it to me and i pretended i liked it but i really hate it and i cant even look at it without feeling embarrassed and disgusted. Im pretty sure he wants me to display it but i havent and im not going to. I am so embarrassed. What should i do? just pretend i still like it or tell him and hurt his feelings?
please help. (link)
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what is it? the way you described it, it sounded like it was honestly something he thought would make a good present. tell him, but don't do the dramatics. just slip in, that its not you're kinda present, and you would have preferred somthing more to you're taste. then tell him, that it still means a lot that he got you somthing and you still think he's great. don't hurt his ego, but don't take it silently either.
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Okay, I want to get on some kind of antidepressants... But I want to do it behind my parents back.
I just don't want to tell my mother because she's going to ask me why I'm depressed, and I don't really know how to tell her. It's mostly because of her and Daddy... And a lot of other, screwed up shit.
But, it's becoming harder and harder to hide my depression, and I really need some help. So, if I can get on them, without my parents knowledge... That'd be fantastic.
I doubt this is possible, but if it is... please tell me how.
I'm so desperate.
15/f/AUSTRALIA (link)
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get your parents to organize a GP appoinment, about something else (use the excuse of periods etc...). your doctor has to keep your problems confidential. first check that he will do this, and if you feel like you are sure about anti depressants, then talk to her about it. however, he wont really prescribe any anti depressants unless he feels that you really need them. he will probably will refer you to a therapist as well. if you are seriously depressed then look up the clinical symptoms, and claim you have them. but from a personal opinion, i feel like you are avoiding a situation, and you shouldn't just turn to drugs. im just saying this, because i have depression and my gp made me take pills for it, and it annoys me that a lot of people think it will solve their problems. the fact that you said your mom will wanna know if you are unhappy, means she cares about you, and not everyone has that luxury of people caring about them, which is why drugs are used. don't take big meausure for small problems, okay? it may seem big now, but it will go away. plus for people under the age of 21, it has side effects, such as increased suicidal tendancies. if u are just depressed, there is no point of making your life worse. be sensible.
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I need support kind of. My father I currently live with but my husband and I are getting ready to be moving out. My father has sleep apnia (spelling) He falls asleep with cups off coffee in his had, lite ciggerettes in his hand and burns things, just falls to the floor, falls asleep standing up and just leaning over. Sits down and just falls asleep. I am up half the night scared the house will be on fire im pregnant and have a 2 year old. Hes mad at me for not letting my son hang out with him in his bedroom he falls asleep with him in there and he gets into things. He and I never really got along but yes he is still my father my mother and his got divorced probably 2-3 years ago now and took me to missouri ( i was a minor at the time and had to go ) I dont have any family here I could go stay with besides my husbands family but no room at their homes.He is also always talking bad about my mom calling her a whore and stuff and she never says a thing about him. He recently got mad at me because im starting a new job and paying for a baby sitter. he said why pay when i can do it for free but i would be having a heart attack at work. Last night he slept in the living room chair with a gun in his hand (he claimed he heard a noise) what if my son would have woke up. I just feel im being hateful towards him and i hate feeling that way but sometimes i feel its the best thing since he wont seek help from a doctor. He buys grocery sometimes if i tell him to other wise we by everything for his home and my husband is laid off and i havent started working so we are really tight on money. im not sure what my question is I just need advice and do you think i am being a BIT... Thank You for reading this. (link)
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okay, first, you should fell obligated to anything just because he is you father, thats not how it works. also you are being very sensible, and a very good parent for not letting your son stay with him in his room. you'd be irresponsible if u were, and your father should realise that. hiring a babysitter, is a good idea, as she'll be responsible for making sure your son isn't alone with your father. i understand he wants to be close with your son, but under spervision. get a babysitter who understands the situation. it is very hard having young kids in the same house as older people as both need equal care, because unfortunatley, as much as you love your father, life is getting harder for him. i've had the same situation when iwas growing up, and the main thing is to not let him feel useless. also make sure that gun is kept locked away, even if he does hear a noise. guns cause more trouble than they encounter, and with a 2 yr old, is is an accident waiting to happen.
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