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So I know this girl and we both went to highschool together. I've always admired her and I wanted to be friends with her but I was always so shy and when she did talk to me I'd come off stand off ish because I felt self-conscious of myself. Over the years after high school I kept bumping into her at random public places but we never said hi or anything because I guess we were never that close. Anyways this year, my bf got into dentistry and surprisingly the girl also got into dental hygiene at the same school as my bf. So occasionally I would see her at events and stuff and the other night I was so drunk that I came up to her and hugged her .... Ive been feeling so embarrassed ever since and I can't help shake off the feeling that I came across weird. Unconsciously I feel like I'm trying to find ways to be her friend but I feel like I'm coming across weird and obsessed. It's like fate keeps bringing me and her together..is this weird? I feel self conscious. How can I stop feeling this obession of wanting to be her friend? Based on this scenerio, if you were the girl and a girl you knew of but weren't close with hugged you at the bar would you be weirded out? (link)
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Well at the bar i expect weird things to happen because everyone reacts to alcohol differently. She might not have even really cared.
I would message her on facebook (or social media of choice) and just say something like "hey, i know we went to school together and keep running into each other, maybe we could get lunch sometime and hang out? and see what happens from there.
I doubt she thinks you are being creepy. I'm betting most of it is just in your head and she hasnt even noticed.
Best of luck!
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I was in the poultry department today and the nice looking guy behind the counter asked me what was I cooking, I said fried fish, spaghetti, mac n cheese and peach cobbler and he said oh that sounds good, and he said ill bring the wine...I just lol....was he making a move and my silly but was too silly to see that.... (link)
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It sounds like he was probably flirting in a joking manner.
It's hard to realize sometimes when people are flirting and you don't see it until it is too late.
Best of luck.
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recently i started liking some music from the 90s to the present day and musicains and bands from the 60s and 70s seem to have aged and ones the 90s and 2000s are still going strong and not real old curious to know why bands from the 90s to now are not as old as the ones from the 60s to the 80s ? (link)
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Well, the people who grew up with the 90's and 2000's music are still quite young so that music gets played more often for that age group. The older music is just that, older. The people who grew up with it are retiring and the younger people are not always a big fan of that era of music. Basically "hit" radio stations play for people who are teens-40's, meaning the 90's music is still good for them.
The "oldies" stations play the older things catering toward people 40+ so really only people who already liked that music are the ones listening to it and that era isn't gaining in popularity because of it.
Hope that makes some sense.
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Should i break up my 7 year marriage?
My husband is a gambler and we are aleays broke
I recently met a man who is a widower and livling
with his sister i like him but I think it is too soon for him to move in,
Please help
I am 53 Gentlemen in question are 63
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You say you have a 7 year marriage, but you are 53. Were you married previously or is this your first marriage?
Was gambling a problem before you married him?
I would first talk to your husband and ask him not to gamble as much. Personally I think it's better to attempt to save the relationship you already have than starting a new one. However, if things do not improve, I would look into leaving him as long as you have your own source of income. Also, if you do have your own source of income, can you block him from using what you earn so that you aren't always broke?
Secondly, if you do decide that leaving is the best option, is jumping into another relationship a good idea right off the bat? Also, does he have his own source of income and just lives with his sister? Or is he broke and relying on her? You wouldn't want to go from one broke man to another, it would just be unneeded stress for your life.
Honestly - 1. Try to fix your current relationship. Do you still love him at least? If you are thinking of someone else, you aren't being faithful to your husband and that isn't fair.
2. If you decide to leave, take some time and get an apartment of your own. Relearn what you like and figure out how you enjoy living.
3. Then if you decide to continue things with the new man, will he fit well into the way you want your life to go? Or will he be too much like your previous relationship?
Hope this helps a bit. Best of luck.
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why can't i ejeculate when I masterbate?
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I mean this is the nicest way possible... but how old are you? You can't even spell the actions you are trying to do correctly, you may not be old enough to do them. Even if you have started puberty, sometimes it takes a while after that to be able to ejaculate. If you are older than 16, you may have some form of health problem, but boys can start ejaculating anywhere between 9-16, it just really depends on their body and when puberty starts. If you are younger than 16, I would say don't worry about it for now, wait until you are a bit older to start panicking.
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Hey , so i am a computer science major who's passionate about programming and software.However, i hate studying any other courses besides what i like. Like right now , I'm studying Discrete mathematics ,which I'm failing . A lot of rage in growing inside of me ; i just wanna throw my notebook and computer at my professor. The question is how do i deal with this situation ; i have tried studying 7-9 hours daily for this course but it's too hard for me ; it's making me feel so obnoxious. I thought of dropping out of school but my parents refused. Those courses have nothing to do with programming absolutely nothing. (link)
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Don't drop out. There are a lot of tools available to help you, have you tried these?
Have you asked the teacher to better explain things? Even if it's a time outside of class, if you tell him how you are feeling and struggling, he should be able to help. Outside of that, have you asked any classmates for help? Often most schools have a tutoring program, is there a tutor that could help you with this subject?
If you don't understand it, of course studying it for 7-9 hours a day will make you angry. Maybe take less time studying on your own and more time with someone who can better explain it.
That being said, considering the date, I'm sure finals are soon approaching. Even if you have to retake the class, don't give up.
Also, I know there is a lot of math that goes into programming. Are you absolutely sure this program won't help you in the future?
The final option would be to see if there are other schools that are more tailored to exactly what you would like to learn. I wouldn't say this as the first option for you to take but if the other things don't help you, it's always an option.
Best of luck
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Is that saying that you're not doing good now, but can get better? Or they see you having a bright future? Like if a teacher says you have potential. (link)
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I take it as you are maybe on the right track with what you are doing but you could do better. Not that you are doing bad now, but if you put more work into it or study harder you could do even better.
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"For if a man, think of himself as something when he is nothing, he has deceived himself. But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another." (link)
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I take it as something like… A man shouldn’t think highly of himself when he doesn’t do anything for what he has only when he does work for what he has should he be happy.
A longer explanation, I don’t know what chapter this is in but I think of it as something maybe like a man has slaves who do his work for him so he shouldn’t think highly of himself but when he actually does his own work is when he should be happy.
Does that make any sense? Basically don’t think highly of yourself if you’ve done nothing to show for it.
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So I am one to believe that life is nuanced and there are definitely gray areas in many situations.
My partner does not. He thinks in black and white.
The problem is he only applies this black and white thinking to other people. But to himself not so much.
I am asking I guess for perspective, because I have thought about this issue so many times and i can’t seem to come to a solid conclusion.
Background: I have been with my partner for about a year and a half. The first 6 months of our relationship were mostly long distance. We’ve now been living together for about a year.
The issue: Because of deep rooted childhood and past relationship traumas that I won’t get into here, he has always had trust issues. For the long distance part of our relationship he always worried that I was cheating on him. I wasn’t.
When we first began, I tended to be honest with my past and answered his questions and shared about who I dated and what I did. This of course made someone with a troubled past even more insecure (except I didn’t know that about him at that point so my naivety kept me talking and sharing).
Now by no means have I had a sketchy past or hundred of sexual partners or anything like that. I may have made a mistake but who hasn’t. Anyway he was not able to get over my past and the things I shared with him, and it would lead to bad fights so eventually I stopped sharing.
Where I was wrong: Because of his overblown reactions, and constant judgement of my past, I started downplaying situations. I wouldn’t lie per se, but I would only share the bare minimum and omit things that I knew would set him off or make him insecure. For example, if I was out with some girls and guys, I would only talk about the girls. If I was having lunch with a friend who I knew liked me but who I was not interested in, I wouldn’t share that this friend had a crush on me. If he asked me about a past vacation and who I was with, I would say a friend , when it was actually someone who I liked (but nothing happened with them). Once I even told him that I only hooked up with someone when I actually did more than that, but all of this was before I met him! I didn’t think it fair to be judged for something I did before I knew my partner.
See, I know this is wrong. I know not telling the whole truth is like lying. But if it was my past, and if I’ve never cheated and if I have never been interested in anyone except my partner and I was trying to avoid upsetting him and irrational fighting, is it really that wrong?
Part of me says yes it’s wrong.
But part of me also says, I’ve caught him doing the same thing. Downplaying a situation or telling a white lie for something to not seem as bad. We’re human. We do this out of fears, to avoid punishments, etc.
Anyway he found out about a few of these situations where I downplayed and now he’s flipped it around to “I’m not mad about what you did I’m mad about you lying”.
But he is not free of his own mistakes either.
I say if I have always respected our relationship. Never cheated or done anything nor would I, is it fair for him to continue to torment me about my past and about who I was with where and what I did with them and about downplaying situations?
Now we live together so this doesn’t happen anymore, but he’s likely to bring up the past and remind me that I haven’t been 100% honest with him all the time.
I just don’t know what to say or do in that situation. Turning it back on him is not mature, but then again , how can you hold someone to a standard you don’t hold yourself to?
And was it so unforgivable for me to downplay a situation about my past out of fear of his reaction?
Have I dug my own grave here?
Thanks in advance for reading this. (link)
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If you can't be 100% open and honest with the person you are dating, you shouldn't be with them. That being said, it doesn't seem like it is your fault. If he can't get over little details, especially things about your past which YOU CANNOT CHANGE, it seems like that's his problem.
In a healthy relationship, there should be trust.
A conversation should go something like this:
A: Yeah I was out with some friends.
B: Who? (asking interestedly, not controllingly)
A: name them all - girls and boys.
B: Oh sounds fun (or something along those lines)
if it doesn't go casually like that are you really comfortable in the relationship? And if you aren't should you even be with them?
And if he can't handle the full truth, that's his issue.
I've not had a lot of relationships, but all of the ones I've had have been serious. I can tell my husband anything and he is fine with it. He trusts me (it would be bad if he didn't.. I like people regardless of gender so he'd have to be jealous of everyone!). I feel like all relationships should be like that, but maybe I've just found a fairytale relationship and real life isn't like that?
I wish you the best of luck and I hope I helped!
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My best friend is super mad at me almost all the time! Today was my anniversary with my boyfriend. She and I normally hang out every Wednesday, but i want 2 spend my anniversary with my bf! But now shes mad and upset and offended! Help! What do I say or do? (link)
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I know it's going to sound crazy to put it like this, but when I was in middle school I had a boyfriend. My friends didn't like him and eventually, my best friend who I had known for years told me that I had to pick between being friends with her and dating him. So I told her I wouldn't choose, and she then quit being my friend.
It hurt. It hurt so bad, I was just trying to keep the peace. A year or two later that guy and I broke up and I realized how right she was. However, I also wouldn't have wanted to keep a friend that didn't accept my choices.
My point with this story is: is she really your friend if she doesn't accept who you are with or what you do with your time? Most friends should understand changing plans occasionally.
On the other hand, try to explain to her how you feel: Your anniversary is important to you, and it is only that one day. Her friendship is also important to you and you didn't mean to make it seem like you were blowing her off. If she doesn't understand that that is her problem.
Best of luck
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Ive been unsure about my sexuality im 16 male but now i think i am gay ive become more attracted to guys i get turned on looking at guys and ive become real friendly with this guy he is gay and he told me he likes me i was unsure how i felt about him but the more time i spend with him i like him even a couple of days ago we were hanging out we nearly kissed i wanted to but i was too nervous i do like him a lot and i think i do want to be with him should i tell him how i feel? (link)
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I think you should be honest with him. when you are hanging out, just tell him that you like him, i know it might be hard, but just tell him, and you said he likes you, so i think it will be ok, just get up the courage and tell him.
Good luck, and i think it will end up great :)
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How can I get a guy to like me for me? I mean I dated this one guy for 6 weeks and now i want him back what do i do? (link)
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Well, just start talking to him again, and see where it goes. He might have moved on, but it never hurts to try. just be your self, that is the most important thing to remember.
If you don't get him back,there are many other fish in the sea, so keep looking.
good luck :)
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14/f
I sit next to this really cute guy in German class where we're barely allowed to talk in English. I like him a lot and can talk a little before the teacher comes in but we're both shy. He knows I like him because my friend told him (his friend as well) but I'm not exactly good with guys. I'm very socially awkward. What do I do? Thank you! (link)
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Just try talking to him. He's shy too, so he knows how you feel, being socially awkward. just talk and get to know him. If a relationship or something is meant to happen, it will :)
good luck
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Hi there,
I noticed several questions like this:
"anong level sila cyd at joanne nag kiss kinder or prep?"
"sino ang pinaka mabilis sa aim high"
"apo pia omada pire o panathinaikos ton dimitri diamantidi?"
I have deleted all of them and blocked the IP addresses they were asked from, but I thought I would ask if you knew why they were spamming you with these?
If it happens again, please contact dangernerd and I will take care of it again.
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I dont know, I havent been on advicenators in a few months, so i have no idea why they would be sending me those.
thank you
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Ive just turned 15 im male and lot of people say your too young to know if your in love or if your gay or not i dont really think that ive known for some time that im gay ive only been interested in guys and ive become really close to this guy ive really like him for awhile now i havent said anything to him about how i feel we are good friends hes friendly towards me i might be wrong but the way he acts i think he might like me im not sure do i give him signals do i talk to him about it? how can i find out if hes gay or not? (link)
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well, i believe you can love at 15. I was in love at 13. Though, i also believe you can love more than one person in your life, but only one is your soul mate..
Anyways, I also think you can know if your gay or not.
Depending on if you want to come out that your gay or not (you never really said if you have told him you are gay), i would say ask him. alot of guys dont realize when someone is giving signals. some do. and you could try it. but i think you should just talk to him about it. if he's really your friend he wont care that you are gay. If he too is gay/bi, then that's great, and if he's not, try to move on.there are billions of people on the earth ,and you will find someone you love.
i hoped i helped and good luck. if you need any more help, im always here!
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the thing is i cant find any girls around here that i know that are willing to hook up with, and the ones that are, well.. they are hoes. lol
I wanna get to know a girl and experiment with them you know? any advice on how to find these girls, without letting more than my close friends that im bisexual? well some people in school know too so im sure more people know. But is there any websites besides teenspot that you can chat with lesbians and bi girls? and if you live in maryland and u are willing to experiement let me know.
and BTW dont call me a hoe because if i was a hoe id fuck with everyone and anyone and i dont.:]
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Well, i dont know how old you are, but i have the same situation. I plan on waiting until college. i live in a very small extremely christian town in indiana, and well the only bi girls here are SLUTS, or my friends that are taken. so my advice is wait until college.
I hope i helped, and if you ever want to talk, im here!
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15/male im gay ive been with my boyfriend almost 2 months everything is going well and i really want to kiss him im not sure if its too soon we havent talk about it im unsure about all this at what stage do you start kissing holding hands hugging all thst stuff? (link)
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Well, it really depends on the relationship. My first boyfriend and I hugged... alot. we kissed 3 months into the relationship, and it took a while for us to hold hands. that is my only relationship that we did anything. I had 2 other boyfreinds and a girlfriend and i never hugged, held hands or kissed the boyfriend, and i hugged the girlfriend the first day.
So it just depends on what your both comfortable with. Talk to him about it. if he really likes/loves you, he will be ok with it. You could just try hugging him and see how that goes. also, this all depends on if you are "out" because depending on where you live, people have different views of gay, so be careful what you do in public if you arent "out" or whatever. but just start with hugging, or holding hands, and when you feel its ready, kiss. its really not as hard as it sounds.
I hope i helped, and if you have any other questions, just ask! =)
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22/f, he's my age.
I recently got out of a relationship with a VERY sensitive guy, and it was a LONG relationship, so this all feels very new to me...
I had a very short, very tightly scheduled coffee date with a guy from a class I no longer attend. I was at work until half an hour before we were supposed to meet, and was actually at the coffee shop on time, but never called him to confirm. I didn't know he wanted me to call him beforehand, and I had forgotten my phone. I figured I'd just show up and we'd meet up. So that was my mistake, I guess.
I did call him back (an hour later) after I got his message asking if we were still on, telling him what happened, but he hasn't called me back yet. This was yesterday evening. We've hung out before, but it was under the pretense of studying, so this was gonna be our first actual date-type-thing.
My question is, should I e-mail him, too? Or will that seem too clingy/panicky/smothery? I've always felt like I understood social dynamics, but all of a sudden I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing. >.<
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I think you should wait a few days. He might not have had time to reply to your messages.
You could try calling him again in a few days. but then if he doesnt answer, then let it go, it wasnt meant to happen.
If you ever run into him somewhere, just talk to him.
Good luck!
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How can I shave my vaginal area with out later getting the read little bumps? Like, anything I can use? My friends use conditionor when they shave and such. What all do I need to do? Am I shaving too hard or what? (link)
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Its kinda hard to explain, but you know how the hair points one way...??? Shave that way... with it, not against it. it will leave a little bit. but it wont leave bumps.
hope i helped.
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i don't know many places to get domain names. one i know is godaddy, but i'm not going to spend extra money to get godaddy's ads off my website. i bought a website last year and i never used the elusive features i paid extra for. i dont remember that account information anymore. back on subject, however, i just want a domain .com or .net or whatever... .org. something common. but i dont want my host website in my url address. websites please? (link)
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Try Freewebs.com. i think it will have that in the domain name tho. but its free!
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