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My names Marissa. I have gone threw a lot in my life.So im pretty good at giving advice from my experince.I always try to answer to the best i can.So if u got a question dont be shy ask away and i will get to yuh as soon as i can.

~Marissa

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13/F

Hey guys,
I'm about to get my hair cut, and I don't know what to get done. I've had the same boring style for a while and I don't know what to do with it.

Here's what I look like:
-Thick, wavy light brown hair down a few inches past my shoulders
-Square-ish face shape
-Very fair skin

I want something interesting, but not TOO dramatic (nothing too short). Any ideas?

Thanks in advance!

Well, maybe just get a small trim on your tips. Some layering and framing. :] It looks pretty good when done right. It's not too dramatic but gives off a nice look since they frame it to your faces shape.

First of all I apoligize for this being long!
Thanks for helping me though!!!

I am 13 years old. I have never been a real popular person and I have never had a boyfriend.

But school starts the 22nd and one thing I really want is a boyfriend. I really hope we get some new guys. But I mean I want to impress some people this year by changing my style!

My typical outfit would be a aeropostale shirt, with a pair of jeans, and hoop earings
I sometimes add a necklace on an occasion.
I wear glasses but I hate contacts so don't tell me to wear them!

I really want to accesorize more.
I dont have alot of money or anything but I mean I can afford a necklace
I shop at stores like hollister, aeropostale, american eagle, ambercrombie and fitch, and those so called "preppy stores"

Im not exactly a prep. I guess I dress like one, but I dont act like one
So my question is how can I change. Any stores that have really cute accesories? and anything you suggest? or any new online stores.

One thing im really look for is some really cute shoes that are comfy

Thanks so much I really don't know what id do without this site!!

Well, you can go with the "In" fashions, ripped jeans and or I think they are calle destroyed?, Big sunglasses, glass pearl necklasses. -All can be found cheep at some places. Mostly the Vintage style is in these days. You can search on Ebay.com they usually have plenty or stylish cheep items.

-SilentTears

I know this sounds disgusting, but my pubic hairs are really long and curly, and when I try to trim them, my vagina really hurts. Is everyone's pubic hair really long? Or is it because I'm italian, and italians are really hairy. How come my vagina hurts?? What am I doing wrong?

If you don't want to have it looking weird or hurt.. You could always just shave it and or Nair it off.=]

PLEASE HELP.

Im 13 and my mom started her period when she was 14 i feel late.
what should i doo?

PLEASE HELp.

GRACEFULLFALL

You'll get it when it's your time hun, there's nothing you can really do but wait.

what are some good creams for your bikini area that will leave it smooth and no red bumps?
thankz

i rate high.

Well the do have the after shave gel that you can rub on, and or you can just use a lotion.

Well, I was dying my hair black a few days ago, & the glove I was using had a hole where my ring finger is. I didn't notice & continued dying my hair.
Now, my finger nail is completely black, & no matter what I do it won't change color.

Is it permenantly like this?
What can I do to turn it back to the original color?

Try to wash your nail and get it soaked pretty good, then try filing it, it could just be the top layer of your nail.

Yeah, anyone have any tips to get rid of them faster?

oh and, didn't know where to place this Q under, I figured this category would be fine.

thanks tons xo

I had a friend who spread peanut butter over the hickys and flicked a spoon onto them.. It made them go away somehow.

Im a sophmore in highschool and im behind 20 credits. My counsler says that there is a 15% chance that i won't be able to walk with graduating class..

Well here's the thing, I was just homeschooled (for 1 semester and thats how i got f**ked up with my credits) and i came back to school for the 2nd semester.

So my question is should i (or would i be allowed to) get homeschooled again for 1 semester next year but instead of effing around actually do my work and catch up majorrly on my credits??

or if any one else has ideas they'd be greatly appreciated.

sorry its long, i rate high.

You can get back into homeschooling to finish I am guessing, I'm home schooled as well, I assume they would let you finish

what kind of cocoa butter is good for your skin? i want my face to be healthy and smooth and less scars so what kind is best? ill rate 5's

There's a new product from clearasil (SP?) I think out that's supposed to remove scaring.

does proactive really work? im asian and my skin is kinda oily.. soo do you think it might work? i know its different for everyone but i dont know

It's amazing, it starts working the first time you use it, trust me you'll love it

i get acne on my forehead but there are also these LITTLE bumps that look like acne but they arent.. idont know what they are and they arent red and plus they dont hurt.. anyone know what im tlking about? what is this and how can i get rid of them? ill rate 5's

They'll clear up over time, don't worry, if not and your worried about it ask your doctor.

Okay my question is when you get your vagina popped is that a bad thing? Will you still have your period? When you stick a finger up your cherry how would you know when it pops?Will you still be able to get pregnant and have your period??

It don't effect anything, you'll still function normal...you should learn this in health class..

i'm 16 years old and i am 7 months pregnet and me and my babay father who is 17 is still together and he has a job makin 9 dollas an hour i was wondering do you know of any programs that would help us get a place of our own

I'm not sure of any programs. Maybe try for a cheap apartment.

My mother took my thongs away from me probally about 8 months ago. I've asked for them back a few times, but not in a looong time! i mean like aleast 2 months.
I'd like to know what i could say to her to persuade to her to let me wear them. I'm pretty sure she took thema way because she thought i was doing sexual things(which, honestly, i was not)

please list things i could say to her
im so depressed & i kno exactly where they are at, which makes it worse. Please do'nt tell me not to worry about it, bc i am, and please don't tell me to sneak them. Its not possible.

Well, just tell her your not doing anything wrong you just think they are more comfortable/cute. Some parents arn't to understanding...but if you explain it to her clearly why you want to wear them she may let you.

ok...well i like this guy(im 13/f)and i barely see him, but when i do there is a major connection. Last wedsday, one of my friends pushed him and i grabbed his hand to help him and we just kinda stood there for a while holding hands...and then later when he saw me again we hugged, but he left his arm around me and it wasnt what he normally does...some of my friends say that hes going to ask me out but i dont think so, what can i do to make him do more stuff like that to me, and to show him that i like him. i dont want to look slutty though.

i rate high

Hmm, he could be flirting. So just be yourself, if he likes you then you wont need to act a special way.

so now since its getting hot, im starting to get really sweaty, and i keep getting teased because of these disguisting sweat stains under my arms. its embarrassing because i keep getting teased. what can i do to solve that problem?

Look for deoderant, that's made for keeping dry.. If you don't use deoderant at all, use it or try to find a better brand

Can you lose weight by not eating just for one day? I'm not going anorexic or anything, just wondering.

Another question, what are the foods to eat that will slim you down the quickest? Like salads with no dressing or croutons...

Thanks, I rate everyone 5!!

Maybe a pound or two. Salads are good. Mostly low calorie foods/ non-fat help slim down.

My brother has a friend named Mark and I went out with 2 days ago. Problem: my brother doesn't know. But I like love his friend. Am I being bad?

You're not being bad for liking your brothers friend. If your brother dosn't understand don't listen to him unless he's got advice about the guy. Usually family dosn't want their siblings dating their friends though, so I just so go for it and forget about your brother.

all of my best friends have boyfriends and theyre always so busy with them that i get left out of everything. theyve stopped being such good friends we dont really talk much and when i do they dont listen. its really stressful and i dunno im not jealous of them im happy they have someone but shouldnt they still care about me? they dont know what its like to be in my situation and when i try to explain it to them they just shut me out. what do i do?

Normally everyone in a relation ship goes threw the faze of only wanting time with there significant other. Just try to talk to them and if they try to shut you out don't let them, have them hear you out on how your feeling about all of this.

ok im a 13/f i have a horse but i keep it at this guys house b/c his mom takes care of it for me. Anyway i go to his house like every other day after school and he always invites this other guy to his house and i really hate the guy he invites. But the guy likes me and if i like even walk past him he slaps my butt and crap like that i hate him but i kinda like the attention. I dont no if i should tell him to stop or just leave it like it is. Plese help. O yeah im only 13 and i would not go any futher that a kiss with a guy so dont even tell me bout that.

Just tell him to leave you alone, if you don't tell him he'll just continue.

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