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OK so theres this guy and i used to REALLY like him and he really liked me also. We went out for a little, but the problem was he tells his like mom EVERYTHING. It really bothered me tha his whole family had to know and his mom was starting to tell my mom. So we ended it for a while. The past year i really havent talked to him only like hello's and goodbyes, but we hung out a few times cause we have the same group of friends. Now were tlaking a lot and we've been hanging out. My bestfriend is like in love with him but he doesnt like her, he likes me now. And i'm really happy cause i like him also. We never did anything together cause i didnt really want my mom to find out cause his mom would tell my mom in a second. My friend gets the idea that i like him but i just dont wanna admit to it. How can i mannage to have a relationship without my mom knowing and my friend hating me =/
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i think that you should ask the boy and make sure that this boy doesnt like your friend so that YOUR feelings dont get hurt .. then if he doesnt then i think you should talk to your friend; ask her that if you guys went out would she be mad at you - if she`d be mad then maybe its not the best idea and if she says she wont then go with your instinct and go out .. also, if you do go out with him then if he wants to do something with you, be sure that he wont tell his mom .. ask him to keep it secret because your mom might get upset .. if he doesn`t then try getting him to keep it to himself or else your relationship wont work out! good luck =)
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hey lindz! i'm a 13 yr old girl. all these popular people at my school hate me. I was dating the most popular boy in our school last year, and when we broke up, they all decided that they hated me and they called me ugly and stuff behind my back. Once one boy literally walked up to me and pushed me! Now summer is ending and its 3 days b4 school starts, and i decided i wanna prove to them im not a loser! What do you think i can do?- anonymous (link)
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ok i think what you should do is just ignore the people that say things about you, and if they come up to you and make fun of you just say "whatever" and walk away, or just ignore it .. you should also try making new friends, and when you have a lot of friends and you act like a nice person, you wont seem lyk a "loser" good luck!
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okayy heres the deal .. there is this guy and i have known him for a while now and have liked him basically since i met him. For a while he liked me too but because of something that got in the way..nothing happened. So for a while he stopped liking me and i put my feelings for him aside. So then in that time (like a year) him and this other girl went out. I mean me and him were still friends and talked and stuff but he had no idea i liked him or anything. well him and his gf/ex were like on a break and we hung out or but he couldnt h.u or anything (they had a deal for 2 weeks). And now i really like him again and he says he likes me too, and we talk alot and hang out again, and he says "love ya" or w.e when we say bye online. he also told me that he has a very strong "attraction" to me. and as far as he knows thats all i have for him. but i wanna turn the attraction into more but idk how. should i tell him i like - i dont wanna scare him away or anything. and i have a feeling that he likes me too but im not sure. what should i do !?
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ok i think that when he says "love ya" say "i love you 2" or something so maybe he gets the HiNT that you like him .. or when your talking online you can say something lyk .. i think about you a lot - if you don't want to do anything like that, then maybe you should keep making plans with him and hang out with him a lot .. & when he asks you to hang out accept that way you can hang out and get to know eachother better, and hopefully he will ask YOU out and your relationship will further. the best thing to do is probably tell him, but i dont think that would scare him away, unless you said something like DRASTiC. good luck =)
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theres this kid and he he likes me but i dont like him at all. so he always asks me why i cant give him a chance and why i dont like him. but i cant just say because i dont like you because i cant be mean.. so i dont know how to brake it to him that i dont like him and never will. (link)
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ok i think that you should tell him how you feel without being mean .. if your "friends" with him, i think you should say "i really like you as a FRiEND, but i dont think we should be more than that" - but if your not really "friends" then i think you should tell him you don't really want to be in a relationship right now. good luck =)
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hey lindsay.. i dont think i can trust two of my friends anymore. well me and my friend ashley bout this kid sean an abercombie shirt when they were goin out. but they broke up and they r mad at each other. and i gave the abercombie shirt to my friend bryan because sean wouldnt wear it and told him not to tell ashley. i found out he did and ashley is rele mad at me. and when im with ashley i would tell her some stuff and she wuld tell and i told her not to. so i cant trust either of them anymore. Ashley is still mad at me, and i am mad at bryan. wat should i do 2 set things right again??
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i think you should tell them how you feel .. you should tell "bryan" that when you told him not to tell you meant it, and tell "ashley" you didn`t think she would get upset and you`re sorry. maybe now you know that you shouldn`t tell them secrets, and they`re not trustworthy friends =\ good luck!
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well, theres this really fat, ugly bitch who think shes ALL THAT, but shes nothing to look at. She took my good friends boyfriend and i mean, hes an asshole, but like it's just the fact that she did it. Lemme tell ya, he ain't good looking neither. So i guess they are perfect together. but i dont know how to handle really gay,ugly,immature bitches,who have no idea she is about to get jumped and i need help trying to make them realize how dumb and idiotic they seem to other people. btw, her name starts with a weird letter. Elephant ?!
please help
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=) i think the best idea is for people to know what goes around, comes around .. you dont directly have to do something to her or him, but indirectly they will probably realize they are dumb and idiotic ! ;) .. maybe we should just accept the face that some people are very mean because they`re insecure! sad, but true!
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heyy lindzz well c here;s the problem... me 'n this guy have been hookin up for like 2 months now. and his girlfriend seems to rele be catching on and she seems rele pissed at meh. wat can i do so that she's not always pissed bc like i hate her and like i dunn wana tell her that her boyf has been cheatin on her for like 2 monthss?/?/?/ (link)
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honestly, i think its best if you don`t hook up with this boy when hes in a relationship. i think that the best idea is to have a talk with this boy - if you were in the other girls situation you wouldnt want YOUR boyfriend cheating on you =\ maybe when the boy breaks up with his gf you can go out/hook up with him then, and even though u HATE this girl, you should do the right thing. good luck =)
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hey Lindz.. ok this this guy i like alot and i dont know if he likes me. I think we would make a good couple because we like a lot of the same things and he's "my kinda guy" My friend is really good friends with the boy i like and he is going to help me hook up with him. my plan so far is to become better friends with him, but when i do i dont know if i should tell him how i feel... what should i do? (link)
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i think your idea is good .. to become better friends with him so that if your friend tries to get you two together, you`ll already be good friends. you dont have to tell him how you feel unless you know that will move your relationship in the right direction. good luck =)
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hey linz. alright, sooo heresss the problem, i have this friend who treats me like dirt. But i dont wana lose this friend because if i say " i dont wana be friends with you" it doesnt work that way. See, I will see this friend for the next 4 years and have to come acrosss this friend A LOT, cause we are involved in the same avtivities. But like, my friend is so mean, treats me like shyt, makes fun of me, bosses me around and ALWAYS starts fights with me. Like, i cant take it anymore. My friend think that they can take advantage of me! Hell no! I think my friend takes their anger out on me cause their jelous or get mad when i have something they dont. And, this person shouldnt act like that. And, im so frustrated b/c i can never get away! Sometimes, this person can be a lot of fun and be reely nice, but ughhhh helppp me linz!
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i think what you should do is tell this person how you feel .. losing a good friend is hard, and you dont want to do that! if you feel like she treats you like dirt, you should let her know, so that it doesnt happen anymore. and im sure she doesnt feel like she can take advantage of you, but maybe your too easygoing and let them step on you =\ .. maybe she is jealous of sumthin you have and they dont though, and thats common and may be a reason she treats you like "shit".. also, maybe you can try hanging with other people so you can make new/better friends ! good luck =)
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this will be very long..sorry! well me and my boyfriend have been going through a lot lately..and hes been wanting to me to prove to him how much i love him cause sometimes he wonders! so i went out of my way and paid my friends sister to take me to the mall so i could get him a bracelet he wanted carved with our names on it! so i spent like $74 on that and then i found the cutest card ever! well then since last night he has been acting kinda distant..like we couldnt really talk or anything! well then today he had to go help his grandpa so i thought no big deal ill talk to him when he gets home! well i looked at his buddypic thing and he took my name off and just put he had a girlfriend and added some other girl on there too which scared me! so i texted him and said something..no response! so then i called his house and he talked to me and said hed get online in a minute! well then he tells me hes going on vacation, he just got a job, and hes doing modeling so we wont really talk anymore so he thinks its best for now if we go on a break and i prove to him how much i love him! and he said after i send him his stuff he will read it all and think about it! and he said he cant talk on his cell cause his aunt wont let him and now he cant get on the computer either for like a week! it kills me so much cause ive never felt this way in my life..hes supposably bought me a promise ring and everything else! well i IMed that girl that was on his buddypic and seen what was up and i guess shes in love with him or something! and he was talking to her with me and i found out another girl says she loves him too and im so scared that he will move on although he keeps telling me he wont and those girls are too good of friends! i wanna believe him but its so hard! well i have his password for everything n he has mine too..well then he decides hes gonna change his AIM password and now i dont know what to think..im so scared something might be going on! i just dont know what to do! i have done nothing but cry since i found out! he told me after i send his stuff he will write me a letter back and i guess thats how we have to talk for now! i really dont know what to do cause im use to talking to him all day..it kills me so much! and i dunno what to do! do you have any cute ideas i could do with his card and bracelet that i can send through the mail? thanks so much! (link)
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honestly, i dont think you should send him this bracelet and card because he doesn`t seem like a good guy! if you keep asserting yourself and giving gifts and "proving" your love for him, and he doesn`t show love back or assert himself in the relationship, maybe it`s better to actually take that break.. i know it may be very painful for you, and all you do is cry but you REALLY shouldn`t let a boy make you sooo upset. it`s going to hurt A LOT, but it`s better for you, so you don`t have to suffer! also, about the "other" girl, maybe you should just let it slide .. play hard to get if you REALLY do nto want to lose him! good luck =]
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i am close with many people but this one friend of mine i am not liking as much as i used to i guess you would say and i just dont understand how to not be friends with her because its really hard and i just cant seem to find away to get rid of her .. please help !! (link)
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i think you should try making new/other friends and then maybe you can hang out with her less and less. you shouldn`t do anything to hurt her feelings, or make her feel like you don`t want to be friends though. good luck =]
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ok so this is to the food problem girl .. i know its not my advice column or ne thing but i know a lot about the whole anorexic - bulemic thing. DONT BELIEVE WHAT THEY TELL YOU IN SCHOOL!! lindsay, health teachers just teach what they are required, but you can ALWAYS bend the rules. its not bad to skip a few meals here and there .. if you have a few extra pounds and skip a couple of meals, your body will be just fine and you will lose weight. and if you stick your fingers down your throat a couple times, it really wont have long-term effects. you just cant constantly do these things and starve yourself of esential nutriants. try eating a piece of lean chicken for dinner. and living off vegetables, fruits, and protein drinks would be a perfect diet for you. instead of skipping meals, try a fruit salad, a banana, any type of fruit or vegetable. go to stop-n-shop's produce section and look at the drinks that they are selling. usually they have multiple protein fruit juices that would allow you to skip 'fatty' meals and just drink instead. drink a lot of water and lindsay's right, exercise. even if you just jog around your block for 15 minutes, it will do a world of good for you. remeber - your mom is only telling you that you are overweight because she wants you to be healthy - not constantly shove your finger down your throat and not eat. also - you have to be extremely careful when making yourself throw up, it is entirely possible to choke on your vomit - a very scary experience, i might add. so sorry lindsay but i couldnt resist =\ (link)
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good advice =]
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I was just in a realtionship with this boy i fell in love with and he meant the world to me and just recently he broke up with me and it has almost been a month and i miss him so much everynight i cry so hard and i hurt so bad i am to the poin where i wanna die and i am messin up my life without him i get high and drink all the time now!! what do i do? I am 14 and a female (link)
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i think that the best thing to do is to move on .. if he doesn`t notice that he`s really hurting you and making you cry so much then he isn`t worth it! .. i know you may say "but i think hes worth it" - but hes making you feel so terrible. also, by getting drunk and high isn`t helping anything, and thats so horrible for you =\ .. try finding other guys that make you happy and be more friendly towards them. good luck!
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ok so my mom has been telling me that i am getting fatter. i am 135 pounds and 5'5. i have been bulimic and anorexic. whenever i eat i throw it up or i dont eat at all. my frends tell me i am not fat that i am at a good weight. but i still think i am fat. my bff is concerned and wants me to stop. but i told her i will stop when i loose some weight and when i get to my goal weight of 95 pounds. if i become 95 pounds i will be so skinny and i want to be like that. so what should i do? should i keep going until i reach 95 pounds or stop and be a fat ugly freak? please help me!! (link)
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ok first of all being bulimic/anorexic is TERRiBLE and will totally ruin your body!.. if you really want to lose weight you should just eat healthy and exercize - by skipping meals, your not getting the nutrition you need and your body is going to fall apart eventually =\ it`s good that you best friend is concerned, and i think that you should definately stop ASAP .. don`t EVER let anyone tell you how to be! you should always have confidence in yourself, and being ANOREXiC and extremely skinny isn`t something people are attracted to =[ dont throw up after you eat, and don`t think of yourself as an ugly freak .. try to just eat healthy, exercize, and have confidence in your body and yourself.. being anorexic shows you don`t CARE about yourself, and im sure you do! =] GOOD LUCK
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ok..well heres the problem.. if i tell myfriend thati think that her bf is getting in the way of our friendship she will get mad at me and she won't understand what im talking about cuz she doesn't think that she gives me an attitude and she doesn't hink tht she disrespects me.. what should i do?
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i think you should let her know that you feel disrespected by her .. if she doesn`t seem to care and gives you an attitude you should try not hanging with her for a while, maybe not calling her as much or iming her etc.. she`ll probably notice that you feel hurt by her and she`ll want to be friends - then you can tell her WHY, and hopefully she`ll be more friendly and more considerate towards your feelings. good luck =]
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I like a guy but he is not "RIGHt" for me we are a different age but not by that much IM older by just a year and ill proubually never see him but i cant stop thinking about him ive never felt this way before-confused girl (link)
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well if you feel comfortable with it, and so does he theres nothing wrong with it .. but, if you`ll NEVER see him like you say then maybe it isn`t good, and maybe you should stay good friends =]
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HELP! my friend is the meanest kid in the world, wut do i do? (link)
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i think you should tell your friend that you think he/she is starting to "hurt your feelings", and let them know some of the things they do that are "mean" .. if you don`t let them know they`re hurting your feelings, they`re gonna keep doing it! good luck ;]
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okay there is this guy i am soppose to h.u with and now we werent going too and now this other kid wanted to with me but now i dont want to with one kid and if i do with the kid i was soppose to then the other kid will be like really pissed.. but i want to h.u with the person i was going to in the first place (link)
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i think you should first make sure the one you want to hook up with still wants to hook up with you .. if he does, then maybe you should tell the OTHER kid that you really like the one you`re supposed to hook up with. if he`s really hurt by that, maybe the best idea is not to hook up with any of them. if he seems to be alright with it, then go for the first one.. but make sure not to make the other one feel bad about it.. good luck!
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so there is this kid i was soppose to h.u with but now i cant cause there is also this other kid thta doesnt like him and will be mean to him if he h.u with me.. and this one kid i dont want to with and i just want to with the kid i was soppose too.. but now i cant or something bad will happen too him.. (link)
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maybe you should ask the kid that doesn`t like the boy you`re "supposed to hookup with", why he doesn`t like him or why he`s going to be mean to him .. also, maybe this kid is jealous and that`s why he doesn`t want you hooking up with any other boy - the best idea is probably not to hook up with this other kid because then he has to suffer and so do you. you should do what you feel most comfortable doing =\ good luck
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what do you do when your friend thinks that someone likes them but you know from people that the person doesnt? i just dont have the courage to tell my friend because i am scared that she will get really upset
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thats tough - i think you should probably let your friend think this person likes her, but if she gets really caught up and keeps telling people then you should tell her, maybe you can say .. "you`re my friend and i want the best for you and i heard so & so likes someone else and i don`t want you to get hurt" so she knows you care and want the best for her. good luck !
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