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Q: 18-female. my guy friend is 17/m

so i've known lets call him "nick" for about four years now. he recently just broke up with his girlfriend of three years, yeah shocking! i've always liked him so i was kind of happy about it. but then i heard from my cousin that he was "talking" to another girl. i was really upset, becasue i mean really? another girl already? and so one night i was like nick is there something you have to tell me, and he was like well like what. and then i was like i hear you have a "new girl" and he was like what! no!! who?! and i told him and he was like haha noooo where did you hear that from and then he always denied it well then the next day he was texting me all day and this girl is my cousin's cousin if that makes sense and she invited herself to his house because my cousin is next door neighbors with nick. well i was like nick why dont you go over there to see your new girl? and he was like SHES NOT MY NEW GIRL! why do you think she is? i dont have a new girl, i dont want one. and i was like why would she invite herself over there, to see you? and he was like i dont know, cant we be friends and why do you care anyways? and i was like because i hate being lied to! and he was like you dont ever even believe me and he knows i have a trust issue and i felt bad because he sounded SOOOO convincing you know? so i was like okay sorry i belive you, i wont bring it up again. well then that night it was me nick my cousin and the "girl" at my cousins house. the "girl" tries to get ALL the attention, its quite annoying. well then nick asked if she wanted to play air hockey downstairs and so just them two went down and after they were done they stayed down there and we watching a movie!!! i was so pissed, but i wasnt going to say anything well because i told him i wouldnt bring it up again and i didnt want to seem annoying because i knew he would say shes not his new girl. i just dont understand though? and my cousin was spying on them and texted nick and was like stop being a "pussy" and kiss her and then he said they were talking about it? i almost started crying. what should i do? am i over reacting? i dont want to seem annoying and i've already brought her up twice before! do you think there just friends? i know hes attracted to me, its not like i'm looking for a relationship with him though becasue i know he wouldnt want to get into one right away. after that night, i havent talked to him at ALL. any suggestions, comments? what do you think is going on.

Im not gonna lie like everyone else below me. but i think he might have a little crush on this girl; but you can stop it before it happens. why dont you talk to him a little about it and tell him you kinda have a thing for him, but try to flirt with other guys a little and make him jealous. If he is attracted to you he should have no problem coming to you. it might take him awhile to get over his three year relationship. but hey, maybe your better than that girl :) i say give it time and let him know you are still there and you will stay by him, but dont wait too long, because sometimes it becomes a waste of time. and also make sure his ex girlfriend and him are completely done, because this happened to me kinda, we were dating for a while and boom his first love pops in and takes him. i just waited it out for a month or so and kept talking to him to see if they had any problems so that i could take him back. but just the other day i decided that he was a waste of time. so take your time, but dont make a waste of your time. good luck

Q: My bf and i are 16 and weve had sex twice we were both virgins and he didnt last that long his penis went soft after a short time and i gave him handjob but i couldnt get him hard again he got embarrassed about it what can we do?

just tell him its okay.. soon you will feel more comfortable around eachother and learn to laugh about that kind of stuff. me & my recent trever have learned to. its only his second time so he is getting used to something other than a hand.. give it a few more tries. what could it hurt? i live by the quote go big or go home. lol it works. but just make sure he knows that you support him & dont want him to feel embarrassed up or down lol. send me another if you have any other questionss. =]

love
jackieee

Q: Is it normal to orgasim seven times in one day

if its not, then i guess im weird =]

Q: what should i write in my best friends yearbook. we both have a whole page for eachother and im awful at writing stuff like that

what me and my best friend did, was... made a note and stapled it in the year book. try writing poems. Just rhyme together some memories you've had and if you need any help writing a poem.. email me at jackiebabyy09@yahoo.com or AIM Me at hollisterhotts87 not to brag but im really an amazing poetic person.
good luck with it =]
jackiee.

Q: ok Im really scared of getting into the pool with my period...my mom says where a tampon and ill be fine....but the thing is i usually have my period 20 days after the last one...but its been off a couple of times....last one was 10 days before...another was 4 days after....its really cofusing..i dont know when to expect it because i never feel bloating or cramps...

any advice?

if your swimming, dont worry. Cold water stops your period from flowing out. if you wear a tampon it does help. you just have to worry about getting out of the pool. thats when your period starts flowing again.
=] JaclynKL2008

Q: im 14/f
i like this guy
he knows but, he says he doesnt kno me well enough i mean we talk everyday on myspace but, nvr imporant things so, is it possible that he just doesnt kno me enough
i would like guy advice

try seeing if he can go hang out a park or a near by place. talk to him on the phone or text him instead of just myspace. make plans to hang out, and prove to him that your just as good as you said before. =]
good luck hun.

Q: i realized they hurt alot when you take them out when you are done using them...is there any way i can take them out without it hurting so badly?
thanks

hey.
once you get used to them, its a peice of cake. sometimes they still hurt me, but that just means you didnt put it in right. Try doing it right after a shoer its not so dry.
hope i helped =]

Q: is there a way you ccan delay your period without birth control

hate to tell you, but there isnt.
your period controls itself. there is really nothing you can do about it, more active people tend to get there period less, so maybe try eating healthier or jogging a couple nights.. good luck =]

Q: ok so i was at a party that got busted and I ran away, the thing is they have a list of everyone who was there, is it against any rules/laws to run away from cops at a party? will i get in any trouble? btw im 16 years old

if they didnt catch your name or any friends that ratted you out.. girl, stop stressin yourr good =]

Q: i really love the name laken, aiden, brayden and braylen.. out of these boys name witch do you like best.. and does anyone no diffrent spelling for these names.. most importantly laken .. people say if i change the spelling it turns into a girls name?

and any other cute baby boy names you can think of!

Ailee Leona
Aila Artemisa
Ayden Anthony
Ayean [Ian]Joseph
Avery Christian
Nycota Leianne
Aynuh Deanne
Christopher Michael
Forrest Benjamin
Cyle Markile
Eric Vaan
vance zachary
Mcailey Lauren
Aliza Danielle
Gabriella Elizabeth
Hana Marie
Kellsy May
Alissa Lynn
Maliah Malinn
Maeve Larissa
Tiernan Claire
Tayler Justine
Jacklyn Kay-Leianne
Rachel Lorraine
Megan Elaine
Alaina Christine
Taylor Joseph
Mike Tyler
Jason Kyle
Lainee Claira
Lailuh Luu
Jonathon
Kyle
Zac
Eric
Jerrin
Darren
Tanner Michael
Talon
anthony
Ryan
Mikey
Christian
Allyn
illan
Lillian
Andy
Keryn
Brynn
Magdelina
Karsyn
Halee
Mckenna
Mcailee
Austin
Jordan
Jake
Alex
Alexa

sorry thatsall i could think of =]
JaclynKL2008

Q: what do you do with your hands while sex, im a girl..and also how do i initiate sex without actually saying 'lets have sex

maybe you should use a catch phrase likeee... "vvanna have some fun". just vvear something cute & sexy, and make his javv droppp =p

Q: okay, well i'm planning to get a new hair style, and i want an "asian" look.

+ i have a round face
+ tannish colored skin
+ i have pretty big eyes, nose & lips
+ big brown eyes

i don't want anything too plain either, but i'm not planning to dye my hair also. i'm keeping it my color, i'm just looking for a new cut.

any ideas? (:

try the vvedge..
its your hair going longer in the front and slovvly going shorter up that back.. look for it on google.. its super cute =]

Q: Can somebody give me a list of songs that will make me feel better about a break-up. A song that says: I dont need you, you cheated on me, im better off without you.

thanks i need to feel better...

I dont know what kind of music you listen to but there are two i can think of.

Stay. by: Sugarland
&
before he cheats: Carrie Underwood.

hope i helped. sorry i dont have more =[

Q: How are eyes the windows to the soul.. specifically. What emotions can you detect from eyes? Do they glitter or something when happy? By eye do people mean the lines around the eye and facial expressions overall? I don’t think just by singling an eye out people can tell what people are feeling/thinking.

I believe that quote because eyes can show emotion. like if someone is sad and crying, you can tell or if someone is happy theres eyes light up if someone is guilty your parents usually can tell that.. when you lie your pupils get bigger.. so i think that this is true and your facial expression helps but i do believe your eyes tell the story =]

Q: Hey,
I'm 18/f and live in ontario,canada
My question is; Do you have to go threw with the whole gynochologist test to get birth control? I'm still a virgin and all and i've never had to go to the gynochologist before. Will i ahve to now?

not at all..
since your eighteen it prolly isnt free anymore.
but you dont need unless your planning on getting the bc [birth control] from your gynochologist just go to a planned parent hood. =]

Q: i'm a 15 yr old who's lives in new york and i was wondering if theres any way that i can get birth control without my parents finding out.. i don't have a job yet so i don't have too much money.. is there any way?

heyy,
I'm Jackie. i live in NY too & i kno alot of places to get birth control.. FREE & COnfedential you dont have to tell your parents. ive been on it for tvvo years and my dad is still clueless.

Email me and ill tell you everything.
Jackiebabyy09@yahoo.com

=]

Q: Is sex when a girl is on her period a complete no?

how bad is it, how bloody does it get? is it really grotesque? does it keep flowing?

if your really that turned on,
go for it. me and my ex used to do that all the time.. just make sure something is dovvn that is ok to get stained and ALVVAYS use a condom.. it vvont feel as fantastic cause your thinking about the blood & its more slimier... but hey look on the bright side.. it takes avvay cramps =]

Q: what does the "day after pill" do? i'm guessing something about helping you not get pregnant?

heyy,
i had to take it once.
It cleans out your system, yeah you vvill be in the bathroom alot peeing. lol. but you vvont feel cramping or anything.. all it does is carry it out. and vvhen u go back to the clinic they vvill give you a pregnancy test; to see if it vvorked =]

Q: i'm always really horny and i masturbate, so i was just wondering if there are any good ways to do it for a girl. i usually just rub my vagina and watch porn but i really want to get realy excited because i usually wait for it all day. any good tips like things that make it feel like your getting eaten out and stuff wuld b good.

if your old enough, Maybe you should find a guy you really like.

Q: I just want suggestions on cute baby names for boys and girls. Thanks. Leave as many as possible.

i personally love the names..

Ila May.
Ailee Anne
Aiden Mathevv
Ian Anthony..

good luck =]

jackieee.

bio

Heyyy im jackiee =]
im 15 and i love helping people.
im easy to get along with, and i can help you with anythinggg! if i dont have an answer for you; you bet ill find one =]Dont be shy or embarrassed; ask me anythinggg!