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re: grovel issue lol
to start off thanks for your advice
I do want to add we live together with my five year old son we dont fight often but when he does get in these spells which is like every 3-4 months he gets short n snappy then when I do say something that he does not like or feels like I should not to him a certain way he gets upset quickly n tells me to leave him alone and when I try to talk about it with him it seems it only makes things worse to the point where he is telling shhh or leave him alone or last resort calling me a dumb bitch to make me cry. so at that point Ive learned the only way to resolve his pissy moment is to give him some space then grovel after a couple of hrs I tried what you suggested before and he does not fold at all he sticks with "oh you know why im upset" and just waits for me to grovel which I have no idea what I said to make him upset its pretty funny cause besides that our relationship is great he gets mad over literally nothing and I think to myself y is he getting upset over something so little cause couples fight over bigger issues then what he is whining about he is just so machismo so to what you advised me of ealier I cannot just leave him cause we live together do u have any other advice
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From now on, when he says something rude. Don't say anything. Just stand up and walk away and get busy doing something else. Talk to a friend on the phone (DO NOT TALK ABOUT HIM) or go for a walk. Don't give him an attitdue that's what's he expects. Whenever he's rude to you and you honestly feel like he meant to be rude, ignore it and pretend he didn't say it. Do that for a couple days, and let me know what happens. :) Good luck. DO NOT GROVEL. No one should be groveling in this relationship. He gets bored with the same fight and you groveling routine. You stay positive. Keep your head up and be confident. Because you need to look out for you right now. Half of your attention should be spent paying attention to yourself. The other half should be your relationship. So you need to do things based on what YOU feel, not what he feels. You two must be equal. When and if he asks why you're doing what I advised, tell him you only accept positive and you no longer pay attention to the negative things.
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