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To grovel or not to grovel when you may have said something hurtful
it seems like every 3 to 4 months he gets pissy I cant say anything without him taking it out of context and then flipping things around it seems as if he is bipolar.when he does get upset he goes a week without talking to me almost as if he is waiting for me to grovel to him and when I give him a couple of hours then grovel to him he is better but then I feel upset cause Im sure I did nothing to hurt his feelings he sort of makes me feel like i am crazy. So the question that I have is when he tells me to leave him alone or calls me a dumb bitch just so I can cry do I just stay quite and distant myself untill he comes around or do I wait awhile then go grovel to him for something I am not even sure what I am saying sorry for. Oh and also he is very machismo he says I need to watch how I talk to him and what I said was "oh im going to start being nice to all the cashiers like you haha" thats quote on quote and if you were curious I am 27 he is 31 we have been together for 3 years so any advice would def help me because oviously I have no one to talk to about my issues I greatly appreciate ant advice. :-)
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The reason he's doing this is because you let him. He likes to see you grovel. It makes him feel good. That is absoultely not okay. So next time he screws up you make him do the groveling. If you want this relationship to work, you need to stand your ground and DO NOT CALL. Do not miss. Do not talk to him. When he comes back, and believe me, I was in a relationship like this many times before, he will finally knock it off. When he repeats doing it, break it off with him again, letting him know how he screwed up. You treat me like shit, he'll come back. It may take a couple months. It may only take a couple days. But the point is, you need to make him want to come back. It's a chase thing. Guys love to play it. If you want it to work, you gotta do it.
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