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Long distance...give it a try?
I'll try to give as much information as possible without going on and on. Story is: In mid july of this year I went to my gpa's surprise party in Boston (I live in Jersey). I actually wasn't even supposed to end up going to the party. Anyway, i'm not that close with my fathers side of the family and even though I'm very outgoing and a little crazy, I was kinda nervous about being there because they are SO judgmental. so right when i got to the party i decided to have a drink (I'm 23). That's when i noticed the waiter was really cute. We instantly hit it off and during the entire party we both were joking around. I introduced him to my entire family (after my 2nd drink) and he went along with it and was laughing with everyone. Then he gave me a trophy, he could have gotten into trouble for giving it to me. We were pretty much flirting the whole time and when I went to pay for my last drink I left my number on the receipt for him. An hour later I received a text from him joking/talking about how funny i was, how great the party was, etc. By the time i got home we were still texting. Anyway, now its a couple months later and we keep in touch through facebook/text. Recently I realized I'm beginning to have actual feelings for this guy, or so I think (it's probably infatuation but I can't seem to get him out of my head.) He's 21 and I'm 23 but we are both at the same point in our lives. I'm in grad school he's in undergrad so right now were both starting our fall semesters at schools in our respective states. Anyway, we text a lot and if it's been a couple days that we haven't talked one of us will always text the other to catch up. He has stressed that he wants me to visit him at school and I'm willing to do so but now I'm entertaining the idea a little more since over the past week or 2 we have been talking more & more. I'm a very silly person, whenever I go out with friends/family they think of me as entertainment for the night with my jokes, outrageous comments and no filter, i say what i want. He sees this in me and really understands that that's who i am. Sometimes he says things like that he's been in LDR's before so I'm sure he somewhat entertains the idea that we are so compatible. He also complains that the one girl whose cool and chill like me lives so far away. We do really random things sometimes like one night we decided to have a drink "together but not together" while on fb chat. Another night we gave each other video tours of our rooms and he even sent me a video of him playing an instrument. I just get along with him really well so far and idk...what's my next step? I don't want to freak him out and tell him i have a crush on him but I do. I haven't had a "CRUSH" on someone in a while. It usually takes me awhile to like a guy and guys around me that show interest are not of interest to me. We both know that right now we're just texting buddies who would totally be hanging out if it wasn't for the fact that that meant we were driving 5 hours. So do I take the trip and see what happens from there or keep going with how it is now? When IS the right time to plan to visit, whenever I say (or he says) I wish we could chill he tells me to visit him. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? How do I explain how i feel without sounding like a teenager lol? Please just give me some advice...i seem to screw things up whenever I realize i actually am interested in someone...
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Honestly, I believe the best way to let someone know how you feel is just by telling them. As for how to say it, it's entirely up to you. I can give you the line my current boyfriend used several years back while we were still friends, "I think I'm falling for you" Swept me right off my feet ;p. Do also consider though, that long distance relationships can be difficult. Not being capable of seeing each other as often as you would both like, it can put a bit of a strain on the relationship. Especially since both genders have certain needs. As for the right time to visit, it's when you BOTH feel ready. I mean, you wouldn't want to just show up, if he wasn't ready, or you wouldn't want him to pressure you when you weren't ready to take such a long trip. Also, it takes time to plan. You want to make sure you have somewhere comfortable to stay, as well as enough money for everything you will need or want while out on this trip.
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