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How do I know I'm kissing right
Ok so I just got back from church camp and I met this guy! we have been texting and I'm really starting to fall hard for him! But we live 30mins away and this weekend he says he wants to hang out...and I'm so happy! But then he says he would really like to make out! I'm 15 and never have done it. I NEED TIPS!!! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!!
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Dear Camp Wannaboyfriend,
Whoa, slow down there, camper, don't get your fishing line into a knot. ~grins~ Ok, I'll dispense with the camp puns...
It's a great feeling to be all googly-eyed over young camp love! Most of us don't get to see our summer sweethearts again, but it's nice when you get the chance.
A few things to keep in mind: out in the real world with the honeymoon haze of summertime fun gone, you both might feel a bit differently about each other. You might find each other not as interesting as you did at camp...or you might think the other person is even cooler than before!
Then again, texting/Facebook/AIM is not--and will not ever be--equal to face-to-face time spent together. It's always a good idea to get to know someone in the same room as you rather than digitally.
As far as anything physical goes, did he tell you specifically he wanted to make out? If so, it's fine if YOU want to. Have you been kissed before or kissed someone (in a romantic way that was short, sweet, and not making out)? Just make sure you're not rushing yourself into anything, especially since you're new to it. Boys can be nice. They can also be...not so nice sometimes. Also, you mentioned you two met at Church camp; if you consider yourself to be religious, then you might want to think about what making out can lead to, and whether or not it conflicts with what you believe spiritually/religiously.
My basic concern is that you don't put yourself in a situation where the other person expects you to do something you're not ready to do. I hear stories all the time from girls your age who talked a lot with a guy via texting/Facebook, the guys asked them to hang out, and the girls let themselves fall into a situation where they were uncomfortable with what the guys wanted to do with them, and sometimes unsafe as well. My intention is not to scare you, just to remind you to be aware of what's going on, to not be naive, and to watch out for yourself.
That being said, if you DO feel ready to become physically involved with another person, take it slow, be aware of what both of you want, and don't stress out about it! Kissing is supposed to be fun! If it's not, then just quit for a while and try again later if you feel comfortable with it. Hang out with each other beforehand, be comfortable, play a video game, watch a movie, take a walk, talk to each other and tell stories; it'll happen on its own eventually. It's something that gets better with practise, and if you think your summertime guy is someone you want to practise with, then go for it!
Hope this helps! If you want to talk about it more, just email me. Good luck!
~*Kathryn*~
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