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second chance perhaps? part 2
Hey! I sent you this question ([Link](Mouse over link to see full location)) a couple weeks ago and you gave me good advice so I wanted to come back and ask you more!
My mum told me the other day that my ex messaged her on FB a couple days after we broke up. He kept apologizing to her and saying how sorry he was for breaking up with me, and for hurting me and hurting me was the last thing he wanted to do. He also told her that he hopes that her and my dad do not think any differently of him, that they do not view him any differently, and that he hopes they don't think he is an asshole. My mum told him that they do not think of him any differently, they still think he's a great guy and hope to see him around and to keep in touch. He said he would and if he is in town he will definitely stop by.
I was talking to him the other night because I had a horrible week and he is the only one that knows how to calm me down so I talked to him and at one point he said "I don't like when you think I'm lying. It makes me feel weird" and I said "Why does it make you feel weird? I don't think you're lying. I know you wouldn't lie to me" and he said "I don't know I want you to believe me with everything.. and I don't know it just does I feel just weird.." and I said "well I always believe you and it scares the shit out of me but I always believe you. You're the first person that I truly trust" and he said "I know and I'm always gonna be here, you know that.. alright?" and I said "I hope so" and he said "You know it." and I said "I hope so, I really do" and he said "I know. No need to hope"
I just don't understand it. I really don't. None of my ex-boyfriends ever treated me this way after the broke up with me nor said these things and certainly none of them messaged my mum. :/ I don't know what it's supposed to mean, if it even means anything or if I'm reading much too far into it.
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His messaging your mother: It means he cares about what your family thinks, which I find as "respectful." It says a lot about his character, that he is going out of his way to impress the ones that are close to you. However, some COULD view it as "clingy," but not necessarily. It DEFINITELY means that he is still thinking about you a lot. A lotlotlot because if a guy is fb messaging an adult/close relative of the significant other, it's not like he just type out a quick message and sent it on the first draft, ya know? And if he did, than he is impulsive. But I bet it involved a lot of analyzing, which definitely means he's still thinking about you.
If this is the same ex in the other question you asked, than I remember saying it's good to keep him as a friend..as in he knows how to "calm you down." If someone is important to you and they never did something major that hurt you (such as hurtful cheating, etc), than it is totally normal and ideal to keep your ex as a friend, in my opinion. Like you said he's the first person you trusted, and if he hasn't broken your trust than he is a good guy. You didn't exactly ask me a straight up question, so I don't know what I'm specifically supposed to 'answer", haha.. I'm kind of assuming that it was what I thought the fb msging your mom was about? It's also a good thing that your parents think he's a great guy. He sounds respectful and the fact that he makes effort shows he is not another lazy, untrustworthy guy like I know so many of haha. So if I answered your question, then I hope I helped!! Otherwise, you can ask me a straight forward question and I'll try to do a better job to answer:) Or let me know if you and your ex have any new installments!
Best, dolphina xx
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