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how to let go of a bad relationship?
I am currently in a bad relationship and have been for two years now. This is one of those first love high school sweetheart relationships that wouldve been awesome if it lasted forever. To make a long story short the fling began in '09 at the time he was cheating on his girlfriend with me and thats how it stayed for a year then they broke up and we got together and hes been doing the same thing(lieing and cheating) on me for a year. I knew i had it coming and i know what i did wad wrong so i accepted my karma but with that being said i dont think anyone should have to be punished for the rest of their lives but he just wont stop he always says he will i always believe him and he always does it again but i love him more than my own family more than my life itself and i just wont let go. How much is enough? How will i ever learn to just let go? I dont want to feel this pain anymore im tired of crying myself to sleep every night. I need a solution. But how can you let go when the thing you're holding on to is what is keeping you going everyday?
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Maybe you need to find something else to keep you going every day. It's fear and insecurity that keep you hanging on. Trouble is, you're hanging onto something that is holding you back. It's keeping you from moving on to healthy relationships and a healthy sense of self.
How much is enough, you ask? You passed that point long ago. This guy is lying to you, cheating on you, and causing you pain. You cry yourself to sleep every night. You describe your experience of relating to him as "punishment". Please tell me what it is you are getting out of this relationship that is worth the misery. What is it about this abuse that "keeps you going every day"?
This is not,karma, this is you hanging on to a false security. You will never find happiness, contentment, support, and joy in this relationship. Your feeling of love for him will eventually turn to hate, but in the meantime considerable damage will be done to your psyche. Every moment spent in this relationship delays a healthy, happy relationship that much more. Every moment spent in this relationship further damages you in ways that will make it more difficult for you to find and enter into a fulfilling relationship.
Find someone who is emotionally healthy, strong, and mature to support you in breaking away from this guy. Possibilities include: A teacher, school counselor, therapist, a church leader, a family member or relative who has demonstrated success in relationships, preferably a woman in all cases.
It's scary to leave the familiar for the unknown, but for you the familiar sucks. There is much better out there, and letting go of this guy is the first step freeing you to go out and find it.
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i think that we ALL have problems "letting go" no one is good at ending a relationship i think its something that one never gets good at as far as your situation just tell him its over and don't let him guilt trip you your gonna get jealous when u see him with someone else but that's just natural and it will pass as time goes on.
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