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im the girl who wrote about the boy thats going through all those phases and what not, yeah maybe your right,hes not mature enough.. he used to be, i just dont know what happend,hes the only guy thats ever treated me like this.. like when hes grit oeat hes great,when hes bad hes bad =/ i just dont know whether he'd regret it or not, wev been through alot, he says im theo nly thing in his life that keeps him happy, and now he says he feels better without me =/ i just really am having a hard time, he always said we can NEVER break up, and that hed never break him promise, but i got so mad and said what i said, and he knows i didnt mean it, but his excuse of doing what he wants now is that i broke up with him, and its all my fault =[
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He sounds like he likes to have his cake and eat it, too. He likes to have you as a constant in his life that he can always fall back on, like a security blanket, while he goes on and does what he wants. A healthy, committed relationship involves considering each other's needs and sometimes not doing things you would like to do for the sake of the relationship. It's convenient to blame you for the failure of the relationship. A relationship, by definition, is what happens as the result of the actions of both people involved in the relationship. He's doing what he wants now because that's what he wants to do, it's not "all your fault" that he's doing what he wants to do.
I don't know all the dynamics of what has happened with the two of you. It would be interesting to get his perspective - how he views things that you have done and said. But here's where the problem of maturity comes in. He does what he wants, but it seems to be based on impetuous reactions rather than reflection and honest communication and decision making.
Maybe it's time for you to move on. There are other men out there. I know you've invested 2 years in this relationship, but maybe it's time to cut your losses. Maybe he'll regret his behavior, maybe he'll grow up in time, but I wouldn't get back together with him before he demonstrated a more honest and mature approach to relationships; one which involves consideration for what "she wants" and what "we want" as much as what "he wants".
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