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What should I do about my sex life? How should I tell my parents?
So, here's the situation. I'm 15 (starting my junior year) and I started liking this guy at my school who was 17 at the time (now 18 and starting his senior year). He was interested in me, and we flirted and started making out backstage at our musical rehearsals. He told me straight out from the beginning that he does not date girls because he does not believe in relationships in high school, just fooling around with whomever he can. I acknowledged this, but I liked him anyways, and I stupidly thought I might be able to hook him. He kept pressuring me to give him a blowjob and go further, and I finally did. It was awkward and I told him I was done fooling around with him within the next few days. We talked occasionally but basically stopped talking. I initiated getting back together because I still liked him, and I gave him another blowjob. We're friends now and this was a few months ago, and it hadn't bothered me for some time.
I also liked a guy very recently who is 19 and lives in New York. He and I went out on some dates when I was out to visit him, and we went parking one night while I was drunk and he fingered me very forcefully. A few days after he reunited with his ex-fiancee, but he claims he did not intend to hook up with me and get back with her. I regret what I did with him very much so, and he and I are barely talking now.
In both of these instances I was sexually active to some extent without a relationship first, and I am beginning to regret that decision, although I cannot change that.
I think from now on I wish to be abstinent and refrain from hooking up with whomever whenever. My parents are very strong Christians (I used to be as well, but now I am unsure of my beliefs), and this would break their hearts. So my main question is: should I tell my parents about my sexual encounters? And if so, how?
Also, do you have any other advice? Should I talk to these young men anymore? Should I tell them anything specific?
I know this is a lot, and it's been quite a burden to me. I would appreciate just a little advice.
Thank you.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
No, you shouldn't tell your parents. It's not worth the pain on either end. Your sexual experiences are yours and private. If you choose to share them, that's up to you, but you don't have to.
Should you talk to the guys? NO! Hell no. Absolutely not. There's no reason to put yourself in a situation that you might feel pressured to return to past experiences, if you catch my drift.
Thanks for inboxing me.
--Jack
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