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what's this guy's deal!?
hey i am a 19/f. i've posted 2 questions about this guy in my class. well anyways, he's weird. he doesn't really talk to me. i can't seem to ever seem to start a conversation. and outside of class as well. whenever he sees me outside of class he always smiles at me. i mean ALWAYS. we talked on facebook a few times but about art appreciation class. i was in his group one day when we had to to do review groups. this girl was asking us what painter painted this piece and i answered it partly & then he gave the rest of the answer. & i noticed in our group he was trying to take charge, which usually something i like to do. and also when i asked him what imperialism was he told me what it was, and i kind of was texting someone. & then he was like well aren't your going to write it down? which at first i thought was kind of rude, but i don't k now if he's interested in me. or if i should even try to make conversation with him, or if i do what would i say? please help. thanks.
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You definitely have an admirer here. He sounds shy and inexperienced. Many people come from homes that aren't filled with social interaction and opportunities to practice social graces in talking to other people.
His quick "arent you going to write it down" cut down was unintended, I think, to be a cut down. He wanted all of your attention and you were distracted.
If that is the worst thing, I mean, if he seems nice and polite at other times, there is a lot he can learn from a friendship with you. Perhaps there is a shining gem in the middle of that slightly rough stone.
Encourage a friendship with him, in person if possible as well as on facebook (the messaging kind that is more private) and lead him down that path to confidence in your friendship. You will get to know the real guy inside as he trusts you more. You may or may not like what you discover, but that is the best way to find out who he is. From your discription, he sounds like he is into you, and doesn't know what to do or say next. Be the one to make the next move. Something casual, public, but maybe not in the group you hang with. That might make him too uncomfortable to be himself. Go for coffee to discuss his project and you can brainstorm with him. Give him a little intimacy with something that doesn't really give you away, like, not your life story or your most recent boyfriend, but maybe a childhood memory that was good and relate it to something current, something positive and happy.
People like to be around confident happy people. Teach him, and give him a little of your time, I think you will be richly rewarded!
Let me know what happens, okay?
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