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does he like me...
I've liked this kid for about 3 years now, never had the guts to tell him because we are friends and if he didn't feel the same it would be too awkward. All the girls love him, but me and him have always had a special bond. He would never disrespect me, he treats me so good .. but I never know if he is doing it because we're friends or he likes me as something more. He will give me signs that he likes me, but I don't know if it's just flirting. He doesn't text me often, or ask to hang out much although he is so busy with sports .. but maybe he is just different with me, or even intimidated since I am a year and a half older.
Anyway last night my cousin (who is his good friend) was talking to his girlfriend, who thinks this guy is sooo hot. My cousin told his girlfriend .. you will never be able to get with him becasue he likes three girls. Two of them are my cousins, one being lindsay (which is me). You should have seen my face light up, but I didn't want to be like OMG ARE YOU SERIOUS, like some little middle school girl. I just played it off but now it makes me wonder. Me and this guy have been physical before, just touchy feely, really physical flirting, not sex or anything like that but we keep all that a secret from my cousin. My cousin doesn't know I like him, but now i'm wondering if this is true. He always tells me how all the guys say how he has two hot cousins. On the other hand .. what if he was just saying that so his girlfriend would stop?
I just don't want to ask my cousin because I don't want him to know i like him and if I ask he will be like why?? And I don't want to look like an idiot asking the guy if it's true because if it's not i'll look completely dumb.
I just can't stop thinking about that maybe he DOES like me..
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Wow, a little complicated in number of persons in your story. Let me know if I have the main players right. You and this guy.
That is an issue right there. You are stuck in teenage mentality that you don't wanna go out on a limb for fear of rejection. I totally get that. Don't expect a busy person to be interested in doing much texting or relationship via email or facebook, for the most part. He seems like he is a straight shooter who is looking for that first hint from, you.
The question is, how to go about protecting yourself and your friendship from hurt if you are wrong.
So, if it were me, and not knowing your age mind you, I would make it clear to him that I adore him as a friend and he is special. Make him feel good by reinforcing his strengths and talents, and this attention will leave him wondering, too, if you like him back.
Try to get some alone time together, casual and platonic, to get to know each other more intimately, the real person behind the face. Suggest something in a public place, if you drive that is easier than if you are younger. Your public place may need to be cokes on the football field benches if you don't drive. Make an excuse to talk to him alone, even if you are stretching. Like, I have a question about (some common area of interest) and you want his opinion on it. See if it leads you to that path where you can both see specificly that each likes the other enough to investigate the friendship/relationship intimacy further.
Keep it light and casual, until you are really communicating face to face easily with him. Then you can avoid ruining a friendship and getting hurt.
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Have a great day, and good luck!
Dear Susie
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