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I need advice please
okay well im new to this sex stuff so anyways im too young rite ive been talking to this guy for a least 3 months but never was official rite and i didnt want it to be offical cus i dont know but anyways he is a tooottaaallyyy bitchh pig asshole etc. he showed me that he really cared for me and i really started to like him. but i just knew the only thing he wanted was sex so we messed around and stuufff like me giving him a hand job and him fingering me but never gave it up to him hell nah. i felt so pressured and disgusted towards myself and i never told anyone about it. so just one lil thing i did was that i told somegirl about me messing around with him so he goes crazy on me he's like "omg why did you do that she already knows all the girls i messed around with now shes ganna go spread it out to her family\" cus he gets along with her family. but i asked that girl if she told anyone n shes like nahh you know i would never tell no one about his stuff i wouldnt do that. i guess he got paranoid.i felt so stupid cus i kept apolizing and he didnt want to have it and i kept kissing ass to him n now he doesnt want nothing to do with me. and i knew from the moment i thought that he was using me i shouldve just let go i guess i really cared for the guy and i felt like if i didnt do what he wanted he would lose interest and he did and im just torn im so stupid.and plus he's the type of guy that doesnt want to be in a relationship with anyone just mess around with girls. i heard he messed with 3 other girls when we were messing around. i txt him nothing called nothing ahh idk im so sick of guyss there pigs and they just want to use you for one thing only i just wanna break down and cry so thats why i feel like a true fuck up cus i am one i never learn i get attatch and affectionate towards them n every time it comes out wrong idk i wanna runaway jk but ahhhh im just depressedd n i hope i aint wasting your time hit me up on your opinion :\'(
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Well I think every one has had a boyfriend like that the thing is that you should always do wats best for you when your trying to build a strong relation ship. I'm pretty sure this won't be the last time you run into a guy like that My advice to you is if a guy says"if you love me you will do this or that"if your not sure you want to or if you just don't want to. Tell him that if he loves you then he will wait till you are ready stay who you are and never let any boy change your mind. Or your thoughts and don't ever let a guy bring you down ( hope this is to long) hope every thing works out for the best !;). .
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Well, there could be a couple reasons as to why he panicked so much when he found out that you told one of his friends. Because he's friends with her family, his family might be friends with her family, too. He might have been scared that she would tell her family and they would tell his family. A different reason would be age difference. I'm not sure, but I'm assuming you're a minor. If he's 18 or over, he might have freaked out that you told his friend because he knows that it's illegal for him to mess around with you and that he could get in trouble for it. The only other thing I can think of is that he was messing around with other girls at the same time and he was afraid that those other girls would find out about you if you were telling people about hooking up with him (even if you just told one person).
Just take it as a learning experience. It does suck, but when you're getting those red flags that the guy is just in it to hook up, it's time to head for this hills. When you continue a relationship knowing that, you're just setting yourself up to get hurt. Don't beat yourself up over it too much. Just learn from it and don't let yourself make the same mistake again.
The guy is obviously a jerk for just wanting that and for ignoring you now, but you're really better off just getting over him. Go hang out with your girl friends and keep yourself entertained. Don't let yourself call or text him any more. Take what respect you have left, and run with it before he can take it all away.
Not all guys are like this, and it's not good that you think that at a young age. It sounds like you're just messing around with jerks. There are really sincere, genuine guys that don't act like that at all. Just search for them and watch your back in the future with guys. It doesn't mean that you have to approach every guy like he's the last guy you dated. Every guy is different and unique. Give them a chance. Just don't hang out with guys that seem like they're only in it for the hook up.
Warning signs of that are guys that only talk about hooking up or want to hook up too early in a friendship. If they get angry at you when you don't want to hook up right away or don't want to date exclusively you. That means they're wanting to hook up with other people and not be faithful to you. If they want to hook up with other people while they're hooking up with you, it's likely that all you are is another girl to them.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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