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I have to pick between two girls, and I can't decide
So it's kind of a complicated/long scenario. I was friends with girl #1 for a few months, and had one of the biggest crushes on her ever. We lived apart at the time, so I never told her. She ended up getting engaged which broke my heart. Anyway, the engagement didn't work out, and now she's single again. She's not exactly my type, and to be honest I'm not sure if I can see myself with her forever, but I still really enjoy hanging out with her, I'm the most comfortable around her, and I'm super attracted to her.
Girl #2, I met back in March, we talked off and on but she also went after another guy. That lasted like 3 weeks, and actually the entire time we still talked. The past two weeks, we've been talking nonstop though, like literally everyday for multiple hours. I'm really falling for her, but she lives a long ways away until she comes back to school after summer. She will live 45 minutes away from me, but it's worth it because we have all kinds of stuff in common. Plus I can already tell she likes me even though we haven't actually said it to each other.
Girl #3 is my best friend and first love. She just got out of a really bad relationship, and she keeps coming to me. Everytime we're together now it's really flirty, but she broke my heart the worst about 4 years back. Plus I wouldn't be able to get with her for at least 2 years due to her location.
I'm really starting to like #2, but me and #1 never had a chance to get anything going and I'm still curious about where that could've went. #3 is somewhat out of the picture for now in my mind, but I still think that she could be the one.
Basically my conundrum deals with hurting girls. Since I'm basically rebound guy for all 3, they've all been hurt recently. I'm nervous about hurting #2 the most. I know there's a lot more into each girl that I can't explain, but with what I've put here, who should I go after? I've never had a decision like this in my life.
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just, wait it out.
it's never good to be a rebound
continue talking to eachone .
they all have their special qualities, obviously.
i mean, i don't think you should be with three, personally
because if she's hurt you once she knows the power she has over you
i think two would be the best choice
you've talked to eachother so much youre basically already going out with her,
and you've been hurt, so you know what it feels like to be hurt
which makes there less of a chance of you hurrting her.
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Well you're right about one thing, you'd be a rebound for each of the girls. If I were you, I would just keep talking to them for a while and see where they're going to go and where you're going to go. You don't want to be a rebound, because the second their heart is mended, they might throw you on the back burner; and that's where you would stay after that.
But, you want to know who you should go after so:
Girl #1: I really wouldn't go for this girl because she just got out of an engagement. Her heart is aching now and you have no idea what she might do. She very well could make up with her ex-fiance and become his fiance again. As you said, her getting engaged in the first place broke your heart, since you had a big crush on her at the time, why put yourself at risk of going through that twice? People that have dated long enough to become engaged are the people that can break up and jump right back into their relationship a week later. If I were you, I'd just stay friends and try to be supportive because she is hurting right now.
Girl #2: Easily your best bet, although there are a couple concerns with her as well. First of all, why did she only date a guy for 3 weeks? I mean, I guess it could have just been a quick fling, but you also need to keep in mind that she was talking to you still those three weeks she was dating him. In your question, you state it like it's a good thing (and it is for you), but as her boyfriend, you've got to be able to trust her; and that shows untrustworthy behaviour. But, as you said, you're falling for her and talking to her non-stop. I'd say she's the best choice out of the three girls.
Girl #3: Pretty much out of the question. You wouldn't even be able to be with her for 2 years, and to be quite honest, it sounds like you've wasted enough time on her. It's hard to get over your first love no matter what ends up happening to the relationship, but you shouldn't put yourself up for getting your heart broken again. It's nice that you can be a support system for her as she just got out of a bad relationship, but I'd leave it at just that. Especially since you even stated that she's not really in your mind right now. Just try to be a good friend and be there for her for now.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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