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Guy Troubles! Sorry,its long D:
Oye.I've had a lot of questions lately,so since its all on the same topic i might as well just ask them all at once,righto? Here it goes!
Well,to start this off-i like this kid-"R". I've known "R" for about 8 years. We grew up together because he lives right near my friend. This year, both of their familys went together for the fourth of july to a beach,and i tagged along. We all had a lot of fun and laughed 24/7. I ended up liking "R",by the end of the weekend. I'm not sure,of course,but i think he might like me,at least a little.(smiley texts,took my phone,told me he'd miss me,asked where i was tickilish;jokingly) And every time i get to this point, i completely loose everything. But I don't want to this time.
So the problems? Well,
Problem 1:For since i can remember;i've never let a guy get too close to me to become a boyfriend.You could say i'm terrifyed of commitment. I can't flirt,i do things such as being compleatly clumsy and stumbling over my words or just being flat out weird. I'm not the kind of girly girl to be flirting anyways,but i'm sure this is one of the reasons i'm not making any progress with guys. How can i be more flirty- and let my guard down? I'm always the happy,random funny girl,i dont talk about my negative emotions/things that happen;waste of time. But could this be one of the reasons i'm so gaurded with guys? Should i talk to my guy friends about problems every once in awhile? I'm still trying to figure that out.
Problem 2: For some reason,every time i like a guy, they get a girlfriend. And i'm not exaggerating,its happend about 4 times this year alone! It makes me feel really bad,So another question is;how can i keep them interested and like me more than the rest? I know i cant literally make them like me,but i still want them to see me more so over the rest.
Final Problem!: I have bad judgements with guys,for example, thinking they like me when i'm totally off (maybe that would explain problem 2! ha). I know this is probably a frequently asked question, but for the sake of the problems i've been having lately- How can you tell if a guy likes you? (would what "R" was doing ^from the first paragraph^ sound promising? He's not the guy to flirt with every girl in the room.) Could you explain to me some of the things a guy would do,naturally through body language or things he would say?
Now, This boy "R". I really like him a lot,and i dont want to ruin it this time. I don't want to feel afraid to get into a relationship. And generally i feel like i really must not have a heart because i start liking someone so much, and then when they show me anything back i pull away. I don't want to give them the wrong idea.
Ugh i wish i wasn't like this-and if you read all this i honestly think your amazing haha. Thanks for any help you have,even if you only answer one of the many questions, thanks!
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ok well I think you stutter and trip over your words in front of guys because your not ready. take it slow and just think that this R person is just another guy friend of yours. maybe you should talk to your guy friends a bit more cuz they would know what guys like.
when a guy is ready for a relationship he would see you over every other girl, thats only if it is true love
don't pull away just believe in yourself, I know you can :)
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