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Truth?
So ok, im A 20 year old sailor, I have a girlfriend whom i am happy with, however we have never met in person (we met online). Before i met her i had another girl that i had feeling for which have since receded. The girl in question now has cancer, and she beleives that her and i are toghther. I love the first girl and care for the second, the second has noone to turn to, i feel as if my involveemeny gives her hope, somthing to live for, as shes terminal. Is this right?
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Well, as much as I hate to say this, but there is no right way to lie. I think you should tell her the truth. I mean what if she does survive and talks about marriage or wanting to be with you forever. You are still just leading her on. Also, online or even long distance... you love her, right?
This is called cheating. I'm sorry I don't believe in "it isn't cheating if you live in different area codes" (just a stupid quote I got from a stupid guy). It may seem right because you are thinking of it as helping her to survive. I think it would be harsher to wait until she gets better to say "sorry I just want to be friends". You can still help her through this by just being there for her, to listen and to care. That is the meaning of true friendship.
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listen squid, you know the right answer. the online chick won't even know. how can she unless you tell her? the right thing, even in secret, is still the right bloody thing. its like doing something minor, that nobody in your unit knows about, that ends up saving their lives in the long run. you have the opportunity to help this girl. its slightly convenient (as awful as that sounds) that its terminal. Don't regret your next decision, because it will haunt you, and things like that won't just fade away. the last thing you'll think about right before you leave this world will be what could have been.
-gunner
oh and by the way, you bastards may win the football games, but I'm on the cover of "soldier of fortune". beat that, top gun.
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