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pedophilia, statuatory rape, etc
im 16/f, and for the last two years, i've had a serious urge to want to have sex with an older man. 30-39 years old, to be exact.
it might have something to do with my love for Breaking Benjamin's lead singer, Ben Burnley. He is 31. and he turns me on and is the subject of many of my wetdreams.
i have a boyfriend who is a few months younger than me, and i love him to death. i would never be unfaithful to him, and i would never have sex with anyone but him. but these wishful, lustful urges wont go away. and its getting so bad to where im about to throw myself at the nearest guy who looks over 20. i dont know whats wrong with me!
i sit here for hours watching BB performances and lust and drool over Ben and everytime my boyfriend and i have sex i keep wishing he was at least 20 years older!!
how do i make this stop? its interfering with my life and im afraid if i dont stop wanting this so much, something bad might happen...
can someone help? give me some answers?
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It sounds like you've just gotten an obsession with Ben Burley, and therefore, older guys are reminding you of him. I think you could also be intrigued by what you don't know. Since your boyfriend his a few months younger than you, and you've most likely only dated guys around your age, you're interested in what older guys would be like.
What you need to see is that guys that are twice your age are not good when you're 16 years old. People could rattle on for days about all the reasons you shouldn't be with someone that is that much older than you at your age. Not only is it highly illegal, there are also a lot of emotional aspects to it that you wouldn't fully understand unless you were in the situation. Plus, 16 year olds and 30 year olds are at way different places in their lives. Sixteen year olds are still in high school. They're trying to figure out what they want to do career-wise and what they want their life to shape up like. By thirty-one, most people's lives have shaped up for the most part. Most people at that age have their career, family, and should be 100% independent.
I really don't think you should be too alarmed though. You're just really attracted to the lead singer of Breaking Benjamin. It's okay to be sexual attracted to people that are older than you. It's fairly common for teenagers. But, if those thoughts are getting to the point of obsession to where they're interfering with your daily life or you think you might act on them, it's time to put away the Breaking Benjamin performances for a while.
You don't want to cheat on your boyfriend or make a huge mistake just because you're caught up in lusting after someone right now. There's a big difference between being attracted to people that remind you of someone you like, and acting on those attractions.
You will be in a world of hurt if you do act on the lustful things you're feeling. If it's truly interfering with your daily life, you need to stop watching Breaking Benjamin videos for a little while. At least until your mind clears up. You need to be able to make the distinction and have self-control enough to not act on your hormonal thoughts.
Darby(:
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