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Dont know how to stop feeling this way
Hey Im not sure if you remember but I asked a question not so long ago asking whether I should give in to this guy I really like.
you the whole continious flirting cutting off contact then etc..
I liked the advice you gave me so i thought id ask your opinion on what I should do I hope you dont mind and would aprciate if you got around to answering =]
turns out I didnt give in and get with him last weekend even though I really did want to i regretted it abit but I was proud for not giving in.
since then though he has not stopped texting me being really sweet etc,he even invited me to his parents wedding in a few weeks.
so im there thinking yeaa how long is this gonna last he'l talk to me then stop until right up before the wedding and looks like thats happend now.
I know myself what hes like and what hes doing but its just when he is talking to me I dont know he just makes me feel so happy and special (pathetic I know)
but he has something that makes me like him and makes me compare him to every other guy.
I guess what I wanna know is how do I stop feeling this way towards him? how do I get past it so il be able to just look at him feel nothing and say no without feeling totally regretful afterwards
have you any advice on what I should do? it seems like no one really understands and I find it so hard to explain it.
thanks for your time and any advice you have =]
Jessie.x
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Yes, I remember you and I'd be happy to help(:
There are two different things that could be happening in this situation:
A) He knows that you're hard to get, and that's making him want you even more. Before, he was flirting with you then randomly ignoring you. Now that you didn't give in last weekend, he's texting you all the time, being sweet, and even invited you to his parents' wedding. Some people are attracted to others that play hard-to-get. Except, you're not playing. He might not know that you're serious about not giving in.
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B) He respects you for not giving in and hooking up with him last weekend. This new found respect is making him actually like you for you. He really does want to get to know you better and be sweet to you now. He's seeing a different side of you than he sees in most girls he's been with and he likes that.
I was in a situation exactly like this for a couple years, and it really is hard to explain how it feels. I completely understand though. It's like you get excited every time he's sweet and it makes you forget about the times that he has ignored you.
What you're asking is advice on how to get over the feeling. In a situation like this, I truthfully found that the only thing that will make you not feel this way is time. I tried every single thing I could think of to get over the guy that I was like that with. I tried distancing myself from him, talking to him about it, and ignoring him. I found out that the only thing that would work is giving myself time to get over it.
I tried to not think about it as much as I could. If he popped up in my mind, I would distract myself by reading, writing, or calling a friend. One day he decided to text me (after ignoring me for nearly two months) and I found out that I was completely over him. I didn't even feel like responding to his text message. I just thought he was annoying at that point.
And I still feel that way. He's texted me and called me I don't know how many times trying to get me to come hang out with him. I never even falter. Any time he's asked over the passed year, I've just laughed it off and said, "Nah, I'm good."
It really is a good feeling when you truly get over it.
If you read this and start wondering if you should give him a chance since he is being sweet, I can help you weigh the pros and cons.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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