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jealousy
i've been with my boyfriend for almost two years and im superr jealous. he's never given me a reason to be but every other guy i've dated has cheated on me and so im constantly suspicious. i need a way to help feeling so jealous when he goes out with his brother or friends or whoever and im at home. i cant go with him all the time so dont say that. and i dont mean something like go out with my friends or go shopping or watch a movie... i need like a therapeutic outlet for jealousy... just something i can do at home to help my mind.. like how when you're mad or upset with somebody you can write down everything you wanna say on paper and then burn it, or have a conversation with a chair in front of you and pretend that they're sitting there and just let it all out.. i need something like that, but for jealously. im not sure this really makes sense, but i hope someone gets what im saying and can help me. any ideas?
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I know you are just looking for an outlet but i'm going to repspond to a bit more than than. It's very easy to be paranoid about a bf/gf possibly cheating. You feel like you are just waiting for the day you will get your heart broken. Also when they are off doing things, you may wonder "is this going to be the day?". This happens. I go through it as well. If your guy was a chronic cheater, surely he would have in two years time. He stays with you. He must feel something to remain with you for that time. If he wanted someone else, he has had the time to leave. I don't know if he has ever cheated. Only he knows that. But I would say it is safe to think that he likes you best. If he likes you that much then there is a good chance he hasn't cheated. But you can't sit around just expecting it. There are guys on this earth that can love you and will not cheat. They do exist. You just have to let go enough and trust and have a bit of faith. If you want something to do while he is out. Try some form of exercise. Exercise reduces stress. Plus it may occupy your mind a bit. You could do things like aerobics, yoga, or kickboxing. Heck, if you have to jump rope or play a game like dance dance revolution you're on your way. If you don't want to exercise, maybe doing something like puzzles or sudoku may occupy your mind a bit. You aren't going to make someone be faithful no matter how hard you try. It is possible to give them a reason to be unfaithful though. Sometimes a gf/bf is just going to betray your trust. That isn't a flaw with you. It is their character flaw. Deep down, you know if this guy does anything suspicious. If you think about it and can't think of any suspicious behavior try to let go a bit. Some people will surpise you in good ways.
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This is a hard one lol. Try keeping a journal, and writing everything down in it. Write down why you feel jealous of your boyfriend, then write down why you know he would never cheat on you. Through what you write, and the feelings you have towards your boyfriend, you can eventually convince yourself that he would never cheat on you, and you have no reason to be jealous. You could also get professional help with a counselor. Jealousy can be very consuming and ruin a person's relationships.
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