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old crush .. awkward now.
so my sophomore year i saw this really cute junior in my gym class. i told my friend who was his next door neighbor and i gave her a note to give to him saying hat i thought he was cute and i gave him my number .. a few days later, i didnt egt a response, so i decided to take action for myself & i walked up to him & introduced myself & we talked in the hall for like 2 min & then he said he would text me. i was thrilled until he didnt text me all weekend and that week. i asked my friend to ask him what was going on&he said that i was a nice girl, but he liked someone else. i was so disappointed because i really gave my all into something i thought would work, especially since im naturally shy. then in the summer i went up to talk to him at this fair his band played at. we talked for like 2 min& i tried to keep things friendly&normal as if nothing happened. now its december, & i see him in school. his friends all stare at me, so im guessing he told them everything that happend. when i pass him in the hallways i ignore him because its really awkward but i see him look at my from the corner of his eye. but when pass eachother closely in the hall, he avoids me. i dont know whether to move on or not but i feel like i still have a crush on him. what do you think he is thinking? should i talk to him? is it too late to say anything since ive been avoiding him for the past 4 months? i want to be friendly but i wouldnt even know how to go about it without it being awkward&weird. should i moveon or give it one last chance?
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my advice is almost the exact opposite of the person below. I also have had a similar experience except reversed. When I first met this guy, we both talked to each other allot and he practically stalked me, so I just randomly started ignoring him: not returning his phone calls and stuff like that. Well lately I decided that I had been a jerk to him, so I sent him a long detailed message explaining my feelings for him and telling him that I was sorry for my action and blah blah blah. Well after i sent him this message, he responded and was like yeah I understand and stuff, and now we are really close friends again. I know this doesn't closely relate, but the moral of it is take initiative and tell him how you feel; it doesn't even have to be in person when you do though things will work out and will no longer be awkward even if it doesn't work out the way you want it it will work out, and you will feel much better.
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Oh man, I feel your pain, I really do. Something like this happened to me not so long ago. I guess if there's one thing I've grasped, it's that sometimes a person's rejection has nothing to do with us. He did say he was interested in someone else, and that may very well still be the case. He may find you a little intimidating, since you seem to take the initiative. It can be anything, you never know, but it's no fault of yours.
Anyway, all pessimism aside, his shyness could be playing a huge role in this. I'm not saying go up to him, cause I don't want you getting humiliated. I'm going through the same awkward-crush-thing at school too, only the scenario is reversed. Some days, when he feels like it, he talks to me, most days we ignore each other. Sometimes that works out for the best, and if it's meant to be, it'll happen. I know that sounds like the corniest phrase in the world, but I've messed up a lot of good things by simply being impatient, instead of waiting for them to come on their own.
If you insist on drawing his attention, there's no better way to him than through his friends. It may probably be a little embarrassing at first, but at least you can find out what they know; what he's told them. You can also go over to your friend's house more often, and try to make sure he always sees you. The worst thing you can do to a person is isolate them, specially in a big crowd. No one likes to feel left out. If you befriend people around him and show him your life has gone on without him, all while subtly ignoring the crap outta him, he's bound to take notice.
Meanwhile, keep ignoring him in the hallways, and interact with everyone other than him. Don't show any signs of discomfort or insecurity. He'll be craving your attention in no time. Luck <3!!
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