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i like my ex's friend
so i'm a theater nerd and right now i'm in a dance show with student taught pieces. so my choreagrapher just happens to be my ex's old best friend and right now they're just really close friends. me and my ex dated for 6 months and broke up 2 months ago. in my actual dance class my teacher was saying how great it is being with a metro sexual man. i shouted out "i call (name of my ex's best friend who is metro)!" my friend who is tight with him asked if i actually liked him because he told her he liked me. i started thinking about it and ended up liking him. now i'm crazy about him. but we haven't told each other how we feel we've only talked through friends. but he asked my ex for permission to get with me and my ex still isn't over me. now the guy is freaked and my ex who was my friend isn't speaking to me. what do i do? i'm still crazy about this guy!and i still want to be friends with my ex.
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Facts are facts and I'm going to be honest. Right now, it's going to be really hard to date this guy and still be friends with your ex. The only possible way you could do this is to get your ex to talk to you. Either call him, text him, email him, or talk to him in person somewhere. Tell him that you need to talk to him, and hopefully he will respond to that.
When you do talk to him (it's better talking about in person), tell him that you're sorry that his feelings are hurt. Let him know that you never intended for this to happen, and that this crush just recently came about. If he's an extremely extremely understanding person, he might end up being okay with this. But, I'm sure you can understand why this is highly doubtful. How would you feel if one of your friends had a crush on one of your exes, and that ex had a crush on your friend too. It's like being double-stabbed in the back by two people you thought you could trust. But there is a slight chance that if you explain and let him know that you're sorry and that you understand how he feels, he could be okay with it.
If you choose to do this and he still is very hurt and doesn't want that to happen, you're going to have to understand that he's probably not going to be your friend for a while. At that point, you might as well date his ex because he's going to know that he's the only thing standing between you and his friend.
Your other choice is to talk to your ex and tell him that you're not going to date his friend. Tell him that you understand how he feels and that you would hate if he did that to you. Let him know that you want to stay friends with him and that you don't want to hurt his feelings by dating his friend.
This way, of course, means that you're not going to get to date his friend.
This is really a matter of what is more important to you. Your ex being your friend, or your ex's friend being your boyfriend?
Do what makes you happy. Even if your ex is extremely angry and hates both of you for now, he will eventually get over it. He may never trust either of you enough to be friends with you again though. That's just a risk you're going to have to date if you're going to date his friend.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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