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please help...
ive liked a guy for over 3 years who just recently told me he doesnt like me...how do i get over him?? i see and talk with him everyday...i dont want to throw away a friendship but i cant really like and other guy with him around
my best friend cheated on her boyfriend 5 time...he broke up with her...she started cutting and threatened to kill herself...she hates herself for what she is...she is in therapy now...
one of the guys she cheated with happened to be my really good guy friend of 3 years who liked me but i always pushed him away
just now i started flirting and all this stuff with him more
but he has a girfriend...so i didnt want him to break up with his gf for me when i still liked this other guy alot
my best friend didnt care and did stuff with him
now i could never go after him...and yes he still has a gf i dont think she knows though
so my life is really twisted right now...what do i do?? and saying just get over the guy ive liked for 3 years and get a new best friend doesnt work...i have liked the guy for 3 years and have been friend with my best friend for 2 and a half i need something more than that..
please...
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As far as your feeling for the guy, I don't believe you should waste time obsessing over him if he told you flat out he doesn't like you. Ofcourse him telling you that will not just make your feelings for him go away, but any romantic feelings that are one-sided are just that! one-sided. My suggestion to yuo is that you see other guys. You can continue to keep this guy as a friend sice you don't want to lose the friendship, but you need to consider that if you do not respect his decision to not be romantic with you...you very well could lose his friendship. So, give him what he wants and find someone who shares and interest in you that matches your feelings for them. You can like someone for a thousand years and that will not get the relationship off the ground because they HAVE TO FEEL THE SAME WAY. If you tried to change his mind you probably couldn't and facing that potential rejection would only do a number on your self-esteem. As far as your "best friend" goes, two & half years really isn't that long. If she was trust worthy, she would never mess with a guy that you have interest in. You really need to watch her because that type of behavior is usually demonstrative of a person's true character and she could do it to you again and the next time it might be with a boyfriend of yours that you have really fallen for. So, if you don't wanna cut the girl off thats your decision really, but you need to consider downgrading her position as your best friend. Maybe to just an associate or just a friend so that she can not hurt you. She may not even want to hurt you, but if she is unhappy with herself she can do a lot of things that you may not understand. If someone doesn't like themselves, you don't stand a chance. I've learned that from experience. If not there is a strong chance tghat you will be sorry you didn't handle her with more caution.I'm sorry if this seems harsh in any way, but I'm giving you my honest opinion and what I've learned from personal experience.
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