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helpless...don't know what to do
I'm 17 yrs old-female...I like this guy since May..he was in my class, we didn't really talk so i don't know why i just started liking him..thing is i ended up telling him and he said he has a girlfriend..but after he told me that; he would stare at me all the time then he would look away when i catch him..he even tried starting a convo with me on msn one time but i wasn't at my computer...so i thought i would get over him by summer, turns out my feelings are getting stronger and i have all these emotions bottled up inside of me and i want to let them out to him but i can't...we don't even have a relationship..i can't even talk to him on msn..that's how shy i am..i just don't what to do anymore..i'm so helpless..
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Im 17 also and a guy. this is my first piece of advice so bare with me.
If a girl came up to me as you did to him, one of three things would happen
1. If i did not feel any attraction toward her, i would feel annoyed by her and probably avoid her at all costs.
2. If i didn't know her or even really notice her before but felt flattered with the potential for feelings, than i would start to take notice of her more often and slowly but surely start to have a crush on her.
3. If i had already had a crush on her, i would feel quite happy and try to get to know her better then ask her out.
the good news is that based on what you've said you can rule out the first one. if that was the case, he would not have attempted to start a convo with you on msn nor would he admire you during class.
weather or not its option 2 or 3, he does want to get to know you. but it sounds like he too is shy. im pretty shy myself and ill tell you that positive self-talk works more than anything. if you're too shy to approach him in person, try msn like you said. maybe jot down a few ideas of what to say to him.
you said he has a girlfriend. dont worry about that for the time being. worry about being nothing but a friend to him before you think you might like to be more. that is key. if you dont think about him as someone you'd like to date and think of him as someone you'd like to be friends with, talking to him will be a breeze.
best of luck =]
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