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I don't know what to do or make of this
Me and this guy have known each other for almost two years now, and we started out going out and broke up after a month, but just got alot closer. Anyway a year and a half later we are really close and we like each other. Anyway, there is something that is keeping him from me. But there is this other guy that likes me and I had feelings for him but my feelings for this other guy that I love was keeping me from saying yes to him. So I asked him (the guy who I like) what he wanted, and he told me that he didnt want me to be with the other guy because he would miss me and he wouldn't know what he would do without being as close as we are now. I told him I needed to a reason to stay, because I knew he wanted me to stay with him (even though we are not going out) And he said that he liked me but he wasn't ready to date me, because any relationship we would have would be serious and he didn't want a serious relationship. I asked him what he was ready for, and joking he said "some hoe on the street". I told him he wouldnt care about her, and he told me that was the point, he cared about me too much. He said because we are in high school breaking up would inevitable (he is one grade ahead of me) and he couldn't risk our friendship. I told him he made me happy and that I wanted to be with him, and he told me I made him happy but he couldn't give me the relationship he knows I dream about. What I need to know is if this is true, I'm not sure if this is an excuse or what makes guys not ready. And if he liked me how come he doesn't want a serious relationship. He says he cares about me. I told him I didn't really want a serious relationship but he said he didn't believe that because I get emotionally attached. At that moment we almost kissed (both of us have never kissed anyone before). But we were in his doorway to his room and I didn't want his parents to walk in on us, so I told him not now. When I texted him this morming I asked him if the feeling of kissing me had passed (because we are hanging out next weekend and I want to kiss him then) and he texted back that he told me yesterday that he wasn't ready to date me so it wouldn't be fair to me. Was that a rejection, I do want to kiss him, and I know he wants to kiss me. I just don't know what to make of this situation. I dont know whether he is bulls******* me. And I need to understand his feelings and I also need to understand what I should do next. And I need thorough advice on how to go about this. I love him, and I really think he loves me. I am hanging out with him next weekend, and I don't know whether to go for the kiss, try to show him that we'd be happier together , than him telling himself that he's not ready for a serious relationship. What is considered a serious relationship? Why does he feel that way? And what should I do?
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well boys are very stubborn at sometimes i know cuz i'm a boy. The only logical awnsor i can give you is just go for the kiss guys like girls who aren't afraid to be the first one to make the move. and if he truly has feelings for you the he sas he does he'll kiss you back.
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