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fighting
me and my boyfriend have been together for a few months now. i love him to death. but we fight so much. i hate it. i feel like its tearing us apart. mostly we fight over, no trust, and how he doesnt care, i know he does but iidk.and i get so mad so fast. how do i stop getting mad over stupid stuff. how do we make our relationship better?
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I'm definitely going through those same things with my boyfriend right now. I'm suddenly having issues with not trusting him and worrying when he gives me no reason to do so.
I realized that my worries were pushing him away, so I decided to do a couple things:
1) If he did something little that would normally throw me into a rage (like play video games while talking to me on the phone instead of giving me his full attention), I would calmly say "Why don't you give me a call back when you're done there?" The important this was that I didn't get mad over it, I just let it go and moved on. It's his loss in the end for not taking the time to talk to me. Next time you catch yourself getting pissed at him for something small, ask yourself "Will this even matter a year from now?" If the answer is no (which is usually likely), then just let it go and don't start an argument with him.
2) I made sure to spend a little time away from him here and there so as not to smother him. I don't know how often you see each other, but if you see each other EVERY SINGLE DAY, that could cause issues. Take two or three days to just do your own thing. The time apart will make you stronger because when you get to see each other, you'll be too happy to spend time together to argue. If you do plan on spending a couple days apart, don't call him 321412390 times a day. Keep it to a simple phone call, maybe one to say good night and see how your boyfriend's day went.
3) I stopped calling him nearly as much as I used to. If you really want to know if your boyfriend cares, wait for him to contact you. No matter how much you want to call him, just be patient and wait to see if he calls you to talk or make plans.
So far, these tips have made my relationship better and I hope they work for you. Good luck!
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