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I am in love with my best friend
I have known her for two years. I am deeply in love with her and she knows it, btu she has never been with a woman. Whenever we are together she holds me as tightly as I hold her. She will caress my back, my head, my hands, my arm. She does feel excited when we are together, but she insist that is not who she is. Yet she is totally aware of me. I had kissed her on the neck once and even though she told me I had to leave, she did not let go of me. Later she told me that if we did make love it would ruin our friendship. I don't think it would. I know we could never be together as lovers, we live many hours from eachother and have busy lives. But I want to be with her and I thnk we can make it work. Am I beating a dead horse? I love her so much, a day does not go by that she is not the first and last thought in m mind.
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Sweetie, you have to try to be more understanding. Put yourself in her shoes. Being lesbian or Bisexual is not something that she is use to... The best thing that you can do and all you really can do is wait it out for a while. Take it slow with her. From what you said about how she caressing you represents that she is slowly but surely trying to break out of her shell. Remember this is very new to her. There are 2 strikes, 2 big issues that she has to worry about that may be mentally stressing her out. First of all, she is inexperienced to being a lesbian and second you and her are best friends. Take it slow with her!!! Let her make the moves on you. Make yourself more desirable. If you show more clevish, hug her tighter and longer, look into her eyes, tickle her, lay on her.... If she responds by touching or caressing you more, then there is a great chance that she has a little bit of lesbian in her. Most likely if you ask me, she does want to try it, she does want to have sex with you, but is afraid of the outcome. She's most likely thinking... What about our friendship? What if others find out? Will people tease me about being gay? Will I like it? Will it be worth it? Just make her trust you, if she isn't ready to come out, make her feel like she can trust you and that you wont reveal her secret!! I wish you good luck!!!!
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you should try and show her that even though you two are going out it won't effect the friendship and that the distance doesn't matter!if you care and love her that much and she cares and loves you back she'll understand that you're relationship as friends won't work because there are stronger feelings involved
hope i helped luv yas
~ashley~
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