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My boygriend has addictions. What should I do?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. During this time, I have learned that he has some serious addiction: guns, various forums on the internet, and lesbian porn. He flirts often but denies it. He lies often. He tries to make eye contact with all the women he sees to show he is interested in them. He will not answer his phone when I call him. He often hangs up on me in the middle of a conversation and doesn't let me know why. (We do not fight on the phone..he just hangs up while I am answering a question or just chitchatting and then the call ends without him saying goodbye.) He will not tell me where he is going, nor where he has been. He often talks to me about women at work and how he is charming with them. He gets on the computer the minute he gets home from work and post topics and responses on various gun forums and lesbian porn forums. He asked me to marry him but told me he couldn't afford a ring. Since the time he asked me to marry him, he has bought 3 guns spending roughly $1500. I have talked to him about all these things and he tells me he loves me, he tells me he's sorry if he hurts my feelings, he tells me he won't ever look at porn again....but he isn't changing. How should I deal with this situation? We live together and I am afraid to ask him to leave because of the stockpile of weapons he has (oh...I forgot to tell you about all the knives he has too!) I know this relationship isn't going to work. And..he has so many issues related to sex that he leaves me unfulfilled: he won't touch my breasts, he won't kiss me on the lips, he won't touch my genital area with his hands (he says it's "slimy", he won't climax inside of me (nor outside for that matter) because he says it makes him lose his hair and also men loose brain cells when the orgasm...Hmmmmm...sounds like he already lost his a long time ago. He told me no one wants to hear about me and no one cares. I feel like I am being abused. Help!
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It sounds like you already know what you need to do based upon your feelings and the facts of the situation. You need out of this relationship in a safe way. Start calling on others for support in your decision. The police can escort you out and have an officer present when you get your stuff if you feel threatened by him and his weapons. Enlist the help of friends and family...stay with someone until you can get your life together. It does not matter who leaves...so if he refuses, you are still better off to give up the place. Better lose a place then your life and freedom to find real companionship and love.
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