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How long do I wait?
Hi, I am 25, female & single.
I met this guy - 28 - a couple of years ago when I was dating a friend of his - not extremely close - however we never really talked until about 3 months ago. We hit it off and I'm pretty sure he likes me. I really like him too although neither of us have communicated this. Problem is he dated a girl for ~2yrs and he's only just broken up with her - about a month ago. We've talked briefly about it and he said that they were heading different ways, that he's been over the relationship for a while, but took some time to break it off because he was afraid of breaking her heart. He also said that his friends have been trying to set him up with girls but that they just haven't been his type. I asked whether he thought it was wise to jump into another relationship just yet, and he responded with - if it's the right girl I wouldn't have a problem with it.
I figure I should wait for him to come to me, but how long? How do I let him know I like him without falling into the rebound category? If I leave him alone completely I'm afraid he will end up with someone else... Love some advice :)
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ho i was once in this situation,what i did was i let him kno how i felt because i reallly liked the guy a lot and i knew he like me as well.he had just come out of a 3year relationship and just like you, i didnt want to be the rebound girl.what i did was i told him how i felt about him but i also let him know that i know that he may not be ready for another relationship right now and i will give him all the time that he needs and when he is ready i will be here for him.I went on two month vacation a couple weeks after we discussed it and when i came back home,he was at the airport waitin for me and when i came outside,he proposed.we have been engaged for 8 months now and we're getting married next July.What i'm saying is let him know how you feel,keeping your feelings bottled up inside will do no good,but make sure you let him know that you're not gonna rush him into anythng,be sensitive to the fact that he just came out of a relationship.Let him know that you're here for him as a friend if he needs you but you hope that someday yall could be more than friends.Just remember to have faith.Follow your heart,i'm not saying that because i did it and i got lucky, that the same thing would happen for you but sometimes we gotta take risks. i hope all goes well for u and i hope that i helped.Let me know how it goes, ans feel free to ask me anything else if you like.
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