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Anxiety
What are some symptoms of anxiety? because there are some things that keep reocurring and I just can't stand it. i get so mad and so panicky over little things. It's like, if I don't get a 100% on this, I go crazy. Whenever I'm in a place that I don't want to be, like a store, I'll start crying in the middle of the store. Things like that. One thing that I find really helps me is excersising, which works great. But, I'm not sure why I'm getting so anxious. I start like hypervenalating during tests and things like that. There's another thing that really takes me over the top. I love my mother more than you could ever imagine. She's a wonderful person, and I'm definatley not here to talk bad about her in any way. But, ever since I was little, she would always sit next to me, while I was on the computer and watch what I was doing. I thought that was fine, since I was so young, but then she stopped for a while. When I was thirteen, she would sit next to me ever day while I was IMing with people and watch what I was saying and telling me what to say. Look, I have gone to an all girls school since second grade and next year I graduate. You can only imagine what it was like for me to be talking to boys on AIM. Put yourself in that position. This was the first time I was flirting with a guy, for real. I asked her when she was going to stop and eventually she did, but then I got a myspace. I'm sixteen years old. I just wonder when I'm going to get a little privacy. I don't want her out of my life, I just want to have a little privacy. I think that's only normal at my age. I'm turning seventeen really soon, and I don't find it appropriate, especially since I tell her EVERYTHING. If I didn't tell her anything, I'd understand that she'd be suspicious or something, but I tell her everything!!!! She knows where I am at all times and she knows what I'm doing. I don't see the necessity for this. I've tried to delete my myspace, but she won't let me. Everytime I mention changing my password, she goes nuts. She checks it first thing in the morning, in the afternoon, before going to sleep, in the middle of the night. It's not going to change! She even takes the liberty of putting pictures of me on there without my permission. She changes my songs, backgrounds, and when I tell her, she just says "i'm your secratery." I don't want to scream at her anymore, and it's not working anyways. I don't know what to do. For those of you who live in miami, and your familiar with UM, that's where she wants me to go to colleage. Even if I mention FIU, she goes crazy. There's this school in west palm beach that i really like, but she gets mad when I mention going there. West palm beach is an hour and a half away. She wants me to to UM, in Coral Gables (in an area in Miami), just a few blocks away. and even if I mention living in a dorm there, she's like "no way! i'm not saying your going to live here forever, but don't go to a dorm. why do you want to go to one anyways?" I told her it was because I want to make new friends (which by the way I've had no friends in high school because of the selection I had to pick from... all girls school my whole life), and because I was tired of her looking at my myspace. Then she said "what makes you think I'm still not going to go on it even when you're in colleage?" That made me furious. i can't deal with that. it's like I have absolutely no inch of privacy. I don't know what to do. A lot of things have happened lately, which have contributed to the anxiety, and I have an alzer as well. I'm just mad and I don't know what to do about it. I've tried to talking to people, but it's just not working. I need a solution. Does anyonhe have any ideas? I have so much stress, that when I take a shower, my shoulders are in so much pain, that the water hurts them. ideas are great. thank you
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Hi,
First off to defend your mom, there are so many dangers surrounding the "net" and her goal is just to make sure she is protecting you. Yet she doesnt realized she is smothering you. My suggestion is to either to talk to her face to face about the issue(s) or write a letter to her explaining your thoughts if talking is too scary. In the conversation or the letter pinpoint some exact things she can do to give you some privacy. But start small do not expect her to let go and give you complete freedom overnight. Maybe ask her to allow you some freedom while online by not reading your IMs. Try showing her that you are responsible enough not to do anything outrageous while online. Ask her if it is okay that you go out with a friend for a few hours but allow her to give you a curfew and you make sure to stick to it. Over time, your mom will break loose from her strong hold on you. I say again, it wont happen over night, you must be patient. Hopefully this will alleviate some of that stress and your body won't ache so much. I hope I've helped.
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