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im 16/f and have been with my boyfriend for about 7 1/2 months.. i feel completely comfortable around him and trust him 110%. i lost my virginity to him about a month or two ago.. but this is my problem: i have no problem having sex with him, but i absolutely dread giving him handjobs or blowjobs.. why is this? why can i stand sex but not do the easy stuff? how can i get over this, and what hints do you have so i feel more at ease doing these things?
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I agree completely with the other advicenators... IF you do not want to give him a blowjob then dont. But like many things in life, we do things to please other people. I mean who wants to empty the dishwasher, or fold the laundry? Not me, But I do it to please my partner. Giving a blowjob does not have to be a chore, it does not have to be gross. The main reason people dont want to give blowjobs is because they dont know how or they dont feel comfortable doing it. If this is your case check out
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They can have you giving an amazing blowjob, and loving it at the same time.
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Everyone has their own sexual preferences. Some like to give hand jobs and blow jobs more than the actual sexual intercourse. You just happen to like the sex. There is nothing wrong with that- and you're completely fine and normal.
As for feeling more at ease for doing these things, you don't need to do anything you don't want to do. If your boyfriend can't accept this, then maybe he isn't the right guy. I'm not saying dump him or anything.. but he should at least be understanding. If he objects to you not wanting to give him a hand job or blow job, tell him he probably wouldn't like to be fingered up the butt either.. [haha.. sorry.. just had to say that].
Do what you want.. don't feel pressured to do something you aren't confident you want to do.
--Jack
(15/m)
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I know many girls who don't like the following stuff, it's majorly because you do not get pleasure from any of it. You just sit your boyfriend down and talk to him about, and see what he has to say. This also comes to, if you don't want to do it DON'T! It's your body. And you can make your own decisions.
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