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so basically there is this guy and we used to be really really close and now its not so much anymore he like cared for me a wiked lot and stuff and like we were really really close and i ended up reaking it off with him because i just kinda lost feelings then i dated someone else.. after that we started talking agian and stuff.. but he fucked it up wiked bad and so i ended it again and dated someone else meawhile he would ALWAYS ask me to hang out with him and stuff because he really really liked me and stuff
Kate xo says: so finally i started hanging out with him a gain and he took me to like this little secluded place and stuff and thats when i started caring about him again and like i had a boyfriend at the time and he tried to kiss me so i stopped him.. because im not a cheater.. and then i told him that i cared about him again on the phone that night so a week later i dumped my boy friend for him and two weeks later he like told me that we should jut be friends and now when i talk to him about it and stuff he just says that he's really really confused and he dosnt know what he wants us to be and i've given him time and i dont know what to do anymore. i cry over him and i NEVER cry.. i dopnt sleep at night.. and i cant do it anymore. but when he came over the other day he looked at me the way that he used to so thats the end
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Well.. you were right.. this is complicated, but it surely isn't long. I've seen WAY longer questions on here before, lol.
Anyway.. I can see that you two have a long and complicated relationship, whether it be as a couple or just as friends. He's giving you mixed signals when he smiles at you or whatever and then doesn't want a relationship. Don't worry.. he's like most guys. I'm going to assume you two are 16. That's about my age [I'm 16 this November] and I know for a fact that most guys our age don't know what the hell they want. They are just as confused as everyone else our age. So, he's definitely a normal teenage guy. But its obviously causing you a lot of grief- which you claim doesn't happen often [i.e. you NEVER cry]. I can tell you really like him, and I can understand what you're going through in wanting someone you virtually can't have. It's HORRIBLE! How much time exactly have you given him? A few days? If so, that isn't enough time. A few weeks? That still may not be enough time. If you've given him about a month and a half or so- then I would have to say that you should move on. If he can't make a decision in almost 2 months, then what will it be like if you ever get married.. you may have to wait YEARS to actually get married- as he may want to reevaluate his decision. There are times when it is appropriate to make decisions quickly or slowly. This one is in between.. and he's moving closer to a "slow" decision maker.. and that's probably not the best thing. There are plenty of guys out there that won't make you wait.. and you should definitely look into being with one like that. If you've ever visited my column before, you will see that I continually tell people that love isn't worth waiting for. There are other things/people out there that will give you 10 times the happiness you see having with this one person who is making you wait.
Did that help?
--Jack
(15/m)
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