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I fancy him, but he's out of my league.
13/f
There's this guy I fancy. And I mean really fancy. He's gorgeous with an amazing personality. He's not my usual type, and before now I always wondered why I kept falling for the wrong guys. But now I can see that he's different to them, he's the type of guy I need, someone who would respect me.
The problem is, he's in the year above me. He's hotter, cooler, more intelligent and mature than me. Basically, he's out of my league in every possible way. How can I stop him from thinking of me as average-looking, young, uncool, dumb and immature. I'm not all those things. Well, I'm young, and sort of immature.And I'm not the coolest person around. But I can be quite pretty sometimes and I'm in top set for everything.
On saturday, me and my friend will probably be hanging around with him cos we know some of his mates and we are going to be with them and their group. How can I make him likefancy me? Or at least like me as a friend?
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hey. this has happened to me before. liking a guy that is older and "cooler" then you. the advice i am going to give you today is ; just be yourself! you sound like a great person and if you just be yourself and he doesnt like that, then there isnt much you can do about it. but if you dont be yourself and he likes you for the person your not, then thats just messed up. the real you would break through at one point adn then he will see its a lie. adn who knows he might liek you for who you are! go for it! and dont change who you are!!
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First of all, stop downsizing yourself and putting him up on a pedestal. I'm assuming you don't know him personally as of right now, so don't assume he's the greatest guy ever. In the meantime, have some respect for yourself! If you can't respect yourself and have confidence in who you are, no one will ever like you.
When you see him on Saturday, wear a cute outfit, something that you look really good in, so you'll have more confidence to approach him. Strike up an intelligent conversation with him about school or politics. Anything really. Crack a few jokes to make him laugh and just be really friendly and nice. Once you get past that awkward first conversation with him, it will be much eaasier to talk to him later and get to know him better. Good luck!
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The first thing you need to do is stop saying that hes better, cooler, more attractive than you, because if thats what you believe, thats what everyone else is going to believe, and thats what hes going to believe. My girlfriend is gorgeous, and im just a normal looking guy, but I dont treat her like shes gorgeous, i treat her like we are equals. You need to forget that hes hot, just talk to him with confidence, and smile. If you sit in a corner all googly eyed and giggling forever, he will never notice you. It also doesnt hurt to flirt with his friends to make him jealous.
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