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I don't get it. I really don't.
15/f. This is really long, just going to warn you now. I commend you even if you don't give me advice if you just read the whole thing.
I seem to be good at solving problems for everyone but myself. There's this guy, he's a senior at another school kind of far away and we've only met once, back in June. After we met for the first time, he asked me out. My sister spoke to him a few times and hates him for no reason, but for once that isn't the issue.
So over the summer I assumed that him asking me out was a relationship and that blew up in my face. He told me that it wasn't and I was very embarrassed and hurt and stopped speaking to him. I only came out with that story recently (I took my guilt out of it before) because he and I became very close again. So close, in fact, that he told me that he wants to take me to all the dark, secluded places where he lives. And many times this week it seemed like he had to tell me something but was too nervous. Then on Friday, he almost told me that he liked me, but said that we had to wait to be in person, which could've been as soon as this Thursday (and still could be). I was ecstatic. Then yesterday, he told me that he also likes me and another girl who goes to his school who he sees every day, and he thinks that she likes him. He's telling me as his "escape" because I don't know her and can't tell her anything. And then he says "It's a problem because if I go out with her and something happens with you, then I'm screwed." I've been on/off liking him for a month and I am just so sick of this crap. Thank you for reading.
1. WHAT THE HELL DOES HE WANT FROM ME?
2. I feel like I need closure. Next time I see him, should I hook up with him if I want to?
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Love is intensely complicated, as I'm sure you already know. And unfortunately, the answer here may not be the one you want to hear....
You have little or no future with this guy. It seems to me as though he's just not decisive enough. If he really wanted you as much as you wanted him, he'd leave this other girl.... And hooking up would ABSOLUTELY NOT give you closure. If anything, it would make things worse. I know this is incredibly hard to do (I know, I've done it), but you're pretty much going to have to walk away from this one. Talk to him one last time, explain the situation, and then wash your hands of it.
Sorry. Hope I helped.
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He probably really DOES like you, but if he has an "escape", you really should just end it. If he is going to love you, he should love you and you ONLY. Because, if he really does love you that much, there should be no need to have another as back-up. Right?
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