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my boyfriend is bi
ive been dateing this guy for 8 months i love him so much and our realationship is perfect we never fight about ne thing we love each other im so happy and now im having his baby i think i could spend my life with him but hes bi sexual theres certain things i cant do for him that a male can
and he still likes his ex boyfriend who is also one of my ex boyfriends the boy he likes happens to like him and still have feelings for me he wants me to be ok with him messing around with the guy I told him i was but now that he is with him to it really bothers me to see them together and it hurts because theysay i love you and everything like we do and i dont kno if i can handle him loveing me and him both but i dont know if i can ever let him go i dont no what to do i love him and i want to except him for who he is but i dont no if i can h
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Can you let him go? First, you need to figure out IF you should let him go. If you decide that you should do that, then the key is to listen to your mind and not your feelings which will pull you back to what was a messy mix of good and bad. Feelings are different from listening to your heart. Feelings are temporary and change as the mind changes, but not before the mind changes. It goes like this...Think It-Act On It-Feel IT. Feelings are not a determining factor that should lead the way, they are an emotional barometer that measures your reactions to any given situation. If you are having unpleasant or uncertain or chaotic feelings, it means something is not working for you and must be rethought. Try to think about what you really really want and then look at what you have now. Focus on only getting exactly what you want and you will. Settle for only what you have now and you will never get exactly what you want. Where we put our focus and energy, is where our steps will lead us and our future is determined. Love is a vague word that means different things to different people and at different circumstances. What does it mean to you? If it means monogamy and commitment, then seek those. Don't accept what feels bad. Compromise never gets you what you want. Some things can be compromised in an equally loving and giving relationship to keep it working, but some things cannot be compromised and it is up to you to decide what those things are. We have no power to change others, only our own minds. Growth can be a painful process but once you are there, you never regret it.
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