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my first heartbreak
hey, i think i need a bit of guidance, i just had my first heartbreak.
i know it will take time, i know what ive gotta do (girl nights, erase his number and so on) its not that part that worries me.. it's the actual letting go. what i mean is, that moment when i finally accept that it's over, nothing worth fighting for, the moment i stop thinking "maybe we'll meet one day in the future and end up together anyways" the moment i truly accept that he'll no longer be in my life.. yeah, that moment is the one i fear. It's going to hurt, so badly. I know that-- but what happen after that? after the days of crying, when you run out of tears,, what happens? caus this is seriously my FIRST heartbreak EVER, i dont know how these things work.. it's a weird sort of heartbreak too, like he didn't cheat, we didn't fight or anything.. he's still the perfect guy i fell for, the guy i love, it's just that i moved, to another country.. and if im lucky i'll see him once a year, but that's it. so it had to end, we were forced to end it. i know it was the right decision, but i dont know how to deal with it.. please help!
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me and my first love broke up about 6 months ago IM the one who got rid of him, he begged for me back for about a month. but i didnt relize what i had lost. i loved him. and i let him go over somthing stupid, but thats not the point. Ill tell you what i went through, i cant exactically tell you what to do because honstly the only thing that mends a broken heart is time. Onwards;; 6 months down the line i still love him, i know i do, we dont talk anymore for various reasons but i always think about him. when i wake up he is the first thing that comes to my mind. When i listen to a song i think of him. 6 months down the line and us girls still arent over it, it sucks, and you will cry, and you will hurt, and you will feel really shitty. But you cant just stop there because it is the FIRST heartbreak NOT the last, cuz trust me theres mostlikely going to be plenty more.. so all you can do is give it time and a true first love never dies and you will never forget him or get over him, thats whats so great about a first love.
best of luck to you.
i send chocolate along your way! =]
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He's probably thinking the same thing about you.
It doesn't have to be over forever though, you can still communicate through AIM, email, or phone.
Talk to your parents about trying to meet up with him, like meet him in the middle and hang out for a while.
As to deal with it, you should try to make new friends. Maybe you'll find another perfect guy. I know that's going to be hard, but just try to meet new people.
Good luck <3
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It's possible that he is thinking the same thing about you...it would be way to hard to make that long distance relationship work but try to stay in touch and stay best friends. Find someone new that will help you get your mind off him. I know having your heart broken is horrible but you will make it through I promise. Just keep your options open and don't make your whole life revolve around this guy that you never get to see.
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~morgan
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Having your heart squelched is far more painful than having your heart broken. I know the feeling.
What comes after?
That's entirely up to you.
I understand this is going to be a hideously bad time in your life, with lots of fun things like crying, depression, and "what ifs" swimming around your head. But if one good thing comes of it... It's the freedom. Once it's all over, you take a step back, you look at your options, and you can choose. Maybe you want to find someone else, maybe you want to wait a while.
Your choice.
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