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I need advice.. I'm confused!
well my boyfriend and I (I'm 16 and he's 17) have been dating for almost 5 months now. He said he loves me a lot. He wanted to get married , etc. We've known each other before. I met him 3 years before this and we sorta gone out for a little bit but things weren't working out. But now he says things are going to be different. For some reasons I don't trust him. I seem to have this feeling like we wouldn't last. I can't talk to him about it. He thinks we're meant to be. But I feel like our relationship has so many flaws that we shouldn't be together. Don't get me wrong, I love him though. So I'm just really confused. Someone help me?.. thnxx.
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To be absoloutely honest, you are both very young to be contemplating something as everlasting as marriage. You have to bear in mind that marriage is meant to be a permanent thing and at 16 and 17, you still have a lot of time ahead of you both to grow and change as people. In four years time, you could find that you are both totally different people to the people you are now and that you no longer fit together as a couple.
One of the reasons I say this is because with such a high divorce rate, you need to be absoloutely sure that you want to marry someone before you leap in. From what you have said, you don't sound like you are ready or that you really want to spend the rest of your life with this man.
The thing you have to bear in mind is that love does not mean the relationship is right. You can love someone with all your heart and fear being apart from them...but if they don't want the same things you want or if that relationship is not one built on trust, honesty and communication, love does not mean you have to be together. Sometimes, if a relationship is detrimental to our mental or emotional growth as a person, or if it is bad for you in some other way, no matter how much you may love that person, you have to walk away.
Please bear in mind that you are still only 16 and he is still only 17. There is more than enough time for you both to move on and find the people you are both to spend your lives with. If you really feel you can't trust him now then the chances are you will never feel you can trust him and the relationship will not work out. It is, of course, entirely up to you as to how you deal with this and what you decide to do. However, my personal advice would be that if you know the relationship has no future, the kindest thing would be to end it now.
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i would talk to him about it.
i know that sounds hard, but its
the right thing to do. maybe you
guys would work on the flaws you
have in your relationship. if
nothing improves after you talk
to him about it, i would consider
breaking up with himmm. im in that
same situation myself. it may take
a while for things to get better,
but they might. hope this helped :]
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