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More advice please!
I'm 14 years old and a female.
I have a boyfriend who I have been going out with for 4 months now and at first he was so sweet and really nice to me. Over time he started getting mad at the littlest things,, like how I dressed or did my make-up. He would call me a whore or a slut and other things, and about a month after that he bcame abusive. He would always loose his temper and hit me. Never in front of anyone though, and he just got worse and worse but I never told anyone. So after school yesterday I tried to break up with him, he got so mad and punched me. He said if I ever tried to break up with him again I would regret it. After he left I was just sitting in the hallway crying when this guy I really liked(I didn't know him that well but I like him even before I had a boyfriend)came p to me and knelt beside me and asked me if I was okay. I tried lieing to him, telling him I tripped and fell but he wouldn't by it.(I'm guessing my black eye gave him a hint) He asked me if my boyfriend did this to me and I said yes. He lives close to the school so he asked me if I wanted to go to his house to get cleaned up and I said yes. When we got there he helped me wash the cut and everything and we started talking. He asked me if it was the first time my boyfriend did this to me and I told him no, then I told him everything. For some weird reason I trusted him. He walked me home and when we got their he hugged me and then he kissed me. He said he would take care of my boyfiend. I ddn't really know what he meant but I let it go. I was to happy he kissed me. I was late to school the next day, but when I got their I was just in time to see the fight between my boyfriend and the other guy (Lets call him Matt). They were broken up by the police officer. They were both pretty beat up.Both of them got sent to the principals office. Matt got suspended for a week, and my boyfriend 3 weeks. (He has previos fighting records)I caught Matt as he was leavigng and asked him why he would get in a fight over me. All he said was "I love you and I couldn't stand to see you hurt like that" and he walked away. What should I do I really need help.
Hey,
This is what I posted but I need more advice.
"Matt's" not gonna be back for probally a week and I feel like I should talk to him but I have no idea what to say. It was so sweet what he did for me but still don't know him that well. We've talked but only about music and other stuff nothing about eachother. We sit together in art class so were always paired up to work together. I got his phone number from a friend. I'm so nervous. I'v dialled the number and hung up before it rang 3 times. He doesn't have my number at all and how can he love me when we don't really know eachother? Doesn't that sound odd? I don't want to get in the same situation again, and if I go to see him i'm probally gonna cry. I mean he has a black eye because of me and a cut on his forehead. ( My boyfriend was wearing a ring). And what do I do about my boyfriend. He's called like 10 times and I haven't answered any of them. Hes coming to school in 2 weeks!
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ok first of all
deal with one of them at a time.
matt-i think it would be best if you could call him. if you need motivation, just as your dialing say to yourself, he fought for me, he deserves at least a phone call to say thank you. and the thankyou could also be your conversation starter.
if you can't call him however, try to get a mutual friend to call him and ask about you while you listen on the other line.
You should give this guy a chance. He was willing to fight your boyfriend for you, how bad could he be? did you enjoy kissing him? plain and simply, do you like him like that? if so, then you really should give him a chance. wait until after your current boyfriend is taken care of before you do anything though, or it could get messy. After that, just try asking him to do something low-key, like hanging out at someone's house or going to the movies. don't rush into anything. and if he starts becoming abusive, then he should be dealt with the exact way im going to tell you to deal with your current boyfriend.
current boyfriend-
next time he calls (if he doesnt call within two days, you call him) just tell him its over, that is that, and hang up before he can even respond. as soon as you hang up with him, go and tell your parent, an adult friend, or a teacher about what has been going on. i know calling the police may be too big for you, so just try telling one of the above mentionned people first. if you can't bring yourself to say it write a note and give it to them, or have matt or another friend tell them. you just need to brake it off with him and let someone know, but you should probably brake up with him before telling someone. but tell someone VERY quickly after.
i really hope everything works out!
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