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okay well I'm 14 and i've been talking to this kid, hes 18 but we go to school together and have a class together. we hang out a lot and like just kiss and at the most make-out. well we both admitted to eachother that we both like eachother very much. but the only problem is, is that he thinks im too young. like hes scared that if people found out or something or if we dated he would get in trouble. i've told him it was no big deal but he thinks it is. i really like him and want to be with him but that's the problem. i dont know what to say or do to make him realize he wont get in trouble or anything. please helpp.
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Hun, it is a big deal. I used to be in love with 18 year olds in fact i dated a few...not the smartest choice. The only think most of them want is sex. I know you might be saying "hes not like that" trust me....my ex boyfriend would say he loved me all the time and it turned out he dumped me cuz i wouldnt have sex with him. Please just listen to me...i dont want you to get hurt. Just be friends at the most friends with benifets. You'll be saving yourself a heartbreak and if you guys are still close when your 18....go for it. Make the right choice...xoxo.
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He is not a "kid" legally and has some reason to be concerned. First, there is the legal ramifications for being sexually involved with a minor. Second, he knows how different a 14yr. old is from an 18yr. old, and he may feel guilty for taking advantage of you. You may be more than willing, but the age difference is a big deal until you are BOTH adults. If you want to continue the relationship, my advice is to protect both yourself and him, by limiting the sexual activity, especially avoiding intercourse. A relationship with this age difference will have its challenges because, he will be graduating and perhaps moving on with his life, while you are still in high school with kids your own age. If having dates to school dances and with guys who you will get to see at school is important to you, then you may want to consider breaking it off with him when he graduates.
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