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life sucks for me
alright, i cant begin to tell you how horrible things are going at my new school. see, i just got in to jr high [chicago] and EVERYBODY there is a huge abercrombie and fitch fan .. yeah, i shop at zumiez and hot topic and shit . i get so much crap for it .. i even get death letters .. i fall under the term of "emo" , if you know what the labels are and stuff . i only have one friend and shes in a grade older than me so like i never see her when people are mean to me and stufff. i really think i need to tell somenoe everything on my mind and i really want to see a counciler, like weekly. i'm 11 and in the 6th grade, so i dont know how i tell my mom that i want to see a counciler? she doesnt like me for being different. its confusing, i know.. any suggestions ? channging my style isnt an option .
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It's def good that changing your style isn't an option. You shouldn't have to change for anyone, especially them, unless you want to for yourself.
If you'd like to talk to a counselor, you can talk to the one at your school for free. You don't even have to tell your mom about it if you don't feel comfortable. Go before/after school or whenever you can and signup to go. He/she will call you out of class when they have time to speak to you.
If you don't wanna talk to the one at school, just straight up tell your mom. Try talking to her first and if she can't understand, tell her it's not gonna work and you need a professional to talk to. Then you find a counselor you like and go to them. [Most charge by the hour, btw.]
You've probably been told this before, but if you just ignore them, they WILL stop. Even if it takes a little while. All they want is a reaction because you aren't like them. Atleast style wise..
Try going along with them and see how they react. Don't let them see that it's hurting you or bothering you. What they don't see is that to you, they're different too. Just like you are to them. Unfortunately in this case, there's more of them than you from what you said. So I can see how it's not alot of fun.
Anyways, try doing those things. I'm almost 100% postive that talking to someone about everything will make things a whole lot better.
If you need anything else let me know!
=] Evy
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Are you being harassed for being emo or something else, too? You definately have the right to wear what you please, and the right to an education without harassment. Talk to a teacher or principal or school counselor about the situation. Being new is hard enough, without threats. That should definately be reported. Kids that are insecure find it hard to accept anyone different. It is their problem that they are narrow-minded, however it is the image you project and not you personally that threatens their sense of "normalcy." We all consciously project an image, whether or not we admit it. Sometimes we find others who share an admiration or at least respect out chosen image, or they do not understand or like it. If it were a scary mask you wore that separated you from blending in enough to go to school without problems, then I would tell you to simply take it off. Do you see my point? I don't want you to not be who you are, but if you can find a different outlet to express your individuality besides what you look like, you might have an easier time. It is not selling out to not fight every single battle in life. Your clothes can stay the same, but maybe tone down the look and see how you feel. What you may be seeking in expressing yourself visually, is what you have not been allowed to express verbally. Your mom does not want you to be different, but everyone is different. I think you have some depth that others find too complicated to understand. Changing your style is only not an option if you define your style as a permanent expression that you will cling to as powerfully as the others cling to their images. You are above that narrowmindedness. I believe you can and will sometime in life find creative venues to express your anger, pleasure, and entire self that go beyond appearences. It the message you are sending to the world is F*** Off!, then expect to get it back. If the message is, Hey I am me, but I don't mind you, then think about dressing to say that.
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