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I still like him, but I don't know if he likes me. =[
I'm at camo again and there's this guy I've liked for like, three years. The first year, all my friends thought he liked me, and it turns out he did, but I didn't know until later. Then last year my friends asked again whether he liked me or not and he said yes. But we couldn't talk for a whole year cuz I had no way to contact him and he had my number and E-Mail address but he's actually really shy and his mom asked my mom for my E-Mail address (he didn't have an E-Mail before). His mom talks to my mom in the hallways, and the what she said makes me think that he still liked me throughout the year. (My mom and his mom work in the same building). Like, at one point we were supposed to go on a trip, and we weren't sure whether I could make camp both sessions. And she jumps in and cuts my mom off by saying "don't say that, ____ [he] will be so disappointed". Plus, at one point she said that he still had my phone number. And she stopped into my mom's office to tell my mom what sessions he was going. So, the point is, I'm back at camp and we still talk like we have any other year, we just hang out more I think, but we haven't talked about what happened on the last day of camp [when I found out he liked me, and he found out I liked him]. So, I don't know how to bring it up. Because he probably doesn't like me anymore. And I don't want to make things awkward because it's a theater camp and I don't want to be uncomfortable working with him, but then again I don't want to wait till the last day again and not see him after that.
Also, I won't be able to see him once school starts because he lives 45 minutes away, and even though our moms work at the same place, I'm going to Boarding School next year [no, I'm not a delinquent of any sort, it's a good school].
Oh yea, and I saw his mom a few weeks before camp started and she gave me his E-Mail address so we were E-Mailing each other for a couple of weeks.
I don't know what to think or what to do. Any help/advice you can give would be greatly appreciated.
By the way, I'm 14/F.
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To bring the issue up just tell him how you like this guy. Make him guess and if he gets it right tell him. You may think that this sounds really childish, but it really works. I have used this method a few times before.
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I've had an experience JUST like this. I completely know what you are going through. You might not like my advice though--I think you definitely need to talk to him about the situation. Yeah, it might seem really awkward, but the chances are that if he liked you for so long he still likes you and just doesnt know how to bring up the conversation. I think he'd really appreciate it if you started talking about your feelings and let him know that you want a relationship (if you do). My suggestion is to first figure out what YOU want--it seems that your a little unsure if you just want to know that he likes you, to hook up, or if you want to actually have a relationship. Once you know what you're looking for, you need to approach him gently and carefully. Like you said, he's really shy, so he might be uncomfortable if you're really forward and just come out and say "Do you like me?" I think you should just say "_____ (I don't know his name), I've been thinking about what happened between us the past couple years a lot recently and I've realized that I still like you. It's okay if you don't like me anymore, I just wanted to let you know how I feel so you can tell me if you feel the same way or if you just want to be friends. I completely understand if you just want to be friends. I'd just rather tell you how I feel now then wait until the end of camp like last year." Trust me, if he doesn't like you (which I'm sure he does) you will feel so much better knowing for sure than wondering if you could have had something! And if he DOES, then you could start a brand new relationship and maybe even find your dream guy. Good luck!
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