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more than friends
im in the same situation as the other girl. one of my guy friends likes me as more than a friend. he's told me so a thousand times and hes been wayyy more flirty with me n he always hints that he likes me. i dont know if i like him or not.. but i havent been flirting back or anything hoping he'll get the hint and kinda back off. we're kinda in that "more than friends but less than going out stage", like we both know theres something there but were not doing anything about it. but honestly, the more i think about it, id rather just be friends with him.. i mean i dunno, i realize i like him more than my other guy friends, jus not enough to go out n be more than friends with him, you know? well i was talkin to his brother n he wants me to give it a chance bc he thinks we'd be a good couple & what not. also im worried my friends gonna try to kiss me bc he keeps actin like he wants to n keeps hintin that hes plannin on doin it sometime.. well i dunno if i should let him.. bc that could be like leading him on but also itd be like a way to find out how i really feel about him right?? ahh hellppp mee thx <333
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(sorry it's taken me soo long to get this answer out!! i've been away at a performing arts festival)
real quick, i love your drawn out cry for help at the end there. ^_^
took me a second to remember which girl you were talking about, but i gotchya. who says girls are the only confusing ones?? both sexes are equally screwed up, screwed up and crazy i say!
now although you say you've not flirted back with him, you've got to remember that if he takes something else you do (for example, remembering to call and say hey how was your day) he may take that as you liking him. <shrug> we all think silly things at times. when you say you like him more than your other guy friends, what do you mean? because there are all different sorts of love (like in this case, but i don't need to rephrase everything). do you feel like he's a best friend, someone you care for like a comrade, someone you feel you could freely tell the bawdiest thing you've ever done to, someone for whom you'd throw yourself in front of a bullet for? do you feel like he's a brother, someone who's like a relative who you love hanging out with, someone who's older and wiser and can give you a different perspective on things?
as for the saying he's planning to kiss you thing, i've got examples that would both refute and confirm that he's not kidding. first off, good ole seanzy, my buddy with whom i flirt shamelessly and crazily ostentaciously, and he flirts with me as well even more so. but we've never acted on these things, not in 7 years! now for the other example...
i have this one guy friend (although i'm not sure i could really call him much of a friend now), we'll call him almo. he and i became friends about a year ago, and he obviously liked me (and wanted me... -_-; ), even when he was still going out with his girlfriend cookie (name change). after she broke up with him (she has guy A.D.D., ha) almo tried to go after me (and still is trying from a city an hour away) even though he knew/knows that i had/have a boyfriend, but it became more so that he wanted to *do* me rather than *date* me :P (sorry for the crudeness, kiddies).
anyways, i'm not saying that your guy friend, parnell (i bet you all thought i was going to forget to name him, didn't you? ~_^), is just trying to snog you, i'm just throwing out my own experiences.
so to summarise and wrap it up and conclude, just be honest with him, really. make sure that both of your thoughts are all out there. unless you two are psychics, how can you expect to know what the other is thinking unless you tell them??
i hope this helped, sorry again for the lateness. if there's anything new on the situation or if you've anything else to add or say, feel free to email me again. good luck!
~*kitty*~
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