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love with a friend
i fell completely in love with a friend of mine that i no ill never be with, he kinda has a girl he thinks hes goin to be with her in the future but shes not really showin much sign of wanting to be with him..the only thing that keeps him drivin 7 hrs to see her is that she hasnt told him to leave, i just want ur opinions on this do u think she wants him or is just messing with him to get the attention they have been goin out on and off for about 10 yrs now and i figured if she wants to be with him she would have said so by now...
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There's no real way of knowing why she is still with him or how she feels about him but if I was to base a thought on what you have said, it is possible she might be with him out of habit or because she doesn't want to hurt his feelings.
However, as harsh as this might sound to you (and I really mean no offence) it is irrelevant. I know that you love him and it must really hurt to see him spend so much time and effort in maintaining a relationship that you think will probably go nowhere in the long run but there's really nothing you can do.
To travel 7 hours to see this girlfriend, he must really care about her and there must be something in the relationship or they wouldn't be together all this time. If she really doesn't seem that interested in him, it will more than likely fall apart at some time but when or if that happens, you will have to allow him some recovery time to get over her or you may risk ending up as a rebound. Give him some time to get over it and then after a few weeks or a month (yes, really that long if he's upset), let him know that you have had feelings for him for a long time and see if he is responsive.
In the meantime, you need to try to look at some other guys. I understand that you love him but if you spend all your time focusing on one guy you might not be able to have, you could end up missing out on some really wonderful opportunities with great guys. You can't - and more to the point shouldn't - waste your time waiting for a guy you might never get so go out there and see what else the male species has to offer. Chances are you will be a lot happier when you've stopped waiting.
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