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Clinging onto hope
My girlfriend(22) of 5mths has broken up with me.
We were always so close. I did everything possible for her. Flowers, woodwork projects, poems, etc. She left me finding a porn site on my computer. Nonetheless, this site cant be the only reason she left me. I am going to meet up with her in a couple of days. What should I say to her. What can I say that will melt her heart. What can I say that will make her feel for me the way i do for her. I said enough sorries. I do strongly believe her mother is behind the whole break up and she is afraid of her mother. We used to IM alot and I know she still has me on her messenger which tells me she is not ready to let me go. I don't want to be harsh with her. But I do want to vent my heart. I love this girl even though she broke up with me. I believe she is afraid of her mother and therefore has no interaction with me in case her mother finds out. We were very very close. Any advice my dear readers? I want to be with her again and then a smile I once had can once again find its place on my face.
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I notice a lot of "I believe"s in your post. Keep in mind that no one can force another person back into a relationship that they broke off. I would suggest putting the idea of "getting back together" on the back burner and concentrate on re-establishing the foundation to any healthy relationship; communication and friendship. Let her know that you still care about her. Let her know that you are interested in her dreams, hopes and goals. Try to state this without mixing in the romantic and/or sexual aspect of your past relationship (very hard - but you need to treat it like a broken bone - and just keep the pressure off for a bit). By opening up this line of communication (which may take a lot of time and effort to get going, but don't give up), you can find out the true reasons behind your breakup. So even if you don't get back together, you can at least have some sort of closure by knowing what was going on with her.
A sent letter (with no name on the return address so that it's not "intercepted") or an e-mail may work better at first. When she begins to initiate replies, then you know you're getting somewhere.
Best of luck!
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