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why does he keep taking her back?
A guy friend of mine was going out with this girl for over a year. They barely knew each other and had sex the second night.(She had a bf at the time) She was 14 he was 17. She broke up with her bf 2 days later, but kept both of them. Taking turns every other night with each of them. I told my friend, but he refused to believe me. Im very good friends with her ex, and he told her where to go when he realized what was going on.
My friend and her have broken up more than they are together. They both like to be in control and both are very jealous. They fight ALL the time!! She keeps breaking up with him because hes an ass to her. Its like they are still together(just not going out) but they act like it. She has had sex with 2 other guys in between. Whenever his gf breaks up with him he seems to ask his ex why she doesnt call him, and then wants to hang out with her. He told her that they can start out as friends again and get to know one another. I know its because hes just trying to get back at his gf for having sex with other guys, because hes so hurt by that. He says thats not true, and that his ex is just mad because he still talks to this other ex, and he gets the feeling when he does hang out with his first ex that she thinks they will get back together. (well i would feel the same if my ex wanted to hang out with me) His recent ex started seeing this other guy, but still calls my friend nonstop. He takes her calls all the time. Last night he went to her house for the first time since she broke up. She told him that she still loves him, but she had sex with this other guy, but isnt too sure about him. This girl is now 16. She has had sex 1,000s of times with 6 different partners. She told someone that she would let any guy f*ck her! Ive told my friend, but he just doesnt seem to care. Its like they are both emotionally unstable people who feed off each other.
Is it the sex, or is there something wrong with him that he needs to keep taking something like that back that will never be faithful to any guy?? The guy she was just seeing told me he wants her because he heard she was easy. (thats an understatement)
My friend had a very nice gf before this one, and if she would have had sex with another guy he wouldnt have ever talked to her again. (shes a very decent girl)
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Oh dear, it really sounds like this girl has something going on. To be honest, people tend to behave like that more often because they're rebelling against something or are just plain trying to avoid something.
Unfortunately, if your friend isn't prepared to listen to you or to stop this very odd come and go relationship (no pun intended), then, much as I hate to say it, there's really very little you can do. I know how frustrating it is to watch someone you care about allow themselves to get into this sort of situation and it's terrible because you can see exactly where it's likely to lead. However, obviously there's a lesson your friend needs to learn here. Once a big mistake has been made (for example, if this girl were to get pregnant or he were to contract some form of STI) he will learn and he may well say goodbye to her for good.
But right now, you could scream and shout at him til you're blue in the face and it won't make any difference because he's clearly chosen what he wants to do and isn't prepared to reconsider.
The best you can do is to be there to pick up the pieces for him when it all goes horribley wrong. I am sorry I couldn't say something more positive.
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Wow... I think its the sex that they both want thats why she keeps calling him... that girl seems like a hoe(the girl who had 6 parters or w/e) I dont think you can really do anything about it since your friend doesn't listen to you...Try to convince him that he needs someone(like the decent girl) because a relationship is more on trust and and not being easy. Try to get him to understand that he shouldn't be with the girl who is easy.... I wish you you the best of luck tho.
Live Strong!
Sorry if I answer wasnt clear.
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