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break ups
I just broke up with my boyfriend "Andrew" of 5 months (I'm 14). I broke up with him because he made me feel bad, he was self-centered, and he always had to be right. I felt like the end of our relationship was coming anyway; we were just too similiar. I told him that I'd really like to be friends, and he didn't believe me. I was honest. I thought that a lot of the stress between us was because of the relationship,and we would've been such great friends. Later that day, another guy asked me out, and I said yes. Now, "Andrew" is really pissed off at me. He refuses to talk to me and he calls me a liar. I don't know what I did wrong.
How can I make him believe that I want to be his friend? How can I talk to him/what should I say?
Please help, and advice is appreciated
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the guy you were seeing is probably suspicious because all of this happened in the same day. he most likely thinks that you broke up with him to go see this other guy. things like these take time, and he might not believe you no matter what you do. But it might help if you have the guy who asked you out talk to him about it. ANd you can also just have a real conversation with your ex. If he doesn't believe you want to be friends after that, he really is as arrogant (and having the need to be right) as you say.
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guys never want to be friends after they get dumped.
no, really.
i asked my guy friends about this.
it's why they and i have never dated.
give him a while
guys take a long time to get over this "broken heart" thing
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explain to him.. (and be emotional) tell him how you feel.. and if he was that rude to you just dont let him bring you down.
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He probably thinks you broke up with him to date another guy, so yeah that's why he doesn't believe that you 'just want to be friends'. Tell him what you told everyone on here - he makes you feel bad, he was self centered, he always had to be right, and you knew the relationship was coming to an end. Tell him that you would like to be his friend, and if he doesn't want to then you can understand. Give it some time, after you just went out with another guy, of course your ex boyfriend is going to be mad.
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I think what you did wrong was go out with a guy rite after you broke up with "andrew" because it made him feel like you broke up with him to go out with someone else. You can talk to him by either calling him and telling him that you had no intension to ever hurt him and that you would really really like to be friends with him again or you can e-mail him online or even go up to him at school and ask him if you can talk to him for a minute (away from everyone). so basically tell him how you feel, trust me he will listen.
hope i helped,
ME
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try talking to him alone just one on one with no one around and ask him what is up and tell him you didnt mean to hurt him and you would still like to be friends. also im sure it really hurt him when you jumped right into another realtionship without giving it time to see what happens think about if you still really liked him and he broke up with you then jumped right into a relationship with another girl.
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