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internet friend..
Hey Mackenzie! Love your advice.
I'm in a bit of a dilemma as you could call it. Firstly, just to give you rhe facts, I have been speaking to this guy for a very long time. online 3 years to be exact. We've done countless phone calls, pictures, web cams, everything. Our parents have even spoke on the phone.
Anyway.. he lives in the US and I'm in Australia. We've been talking about meeting for ages, and it's finally happening. He's buying the tickets this tuesday. Thing is I'm feeling totally weird about it. He'll be staying here around 3 weeks (my mum okayed it suprisingly enough, but she took some convincing) We've wanted to meet for so long because we really feel deeply for each other, but now it's here I can't help but have second thoughts. He's 20 and I'm 17 btw, and he's a really religious guy so we're not going to get "up to anything" =P He's coming here to genuinely spend time with me. I keep thinking that we're gonna hate each other or something. =/
I'm just curious about what I should do. am I just nervous or is there something seriously wrong here? Should I go through with it or not?
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Wow. What a position to be in.
I know I haven't been around to witness any/all magic between you two, but from the way you presented your dilemma, I can tell that you must really care for him. I know you're a little stressed and nervous over this, and I can NOT blame you for feeling that way. This is seemingly something you've dreamed of for a long time now, and I'm positive that you don't want it to be anything less than perfect, right? (:
I can definitely see why you would be worrying. It's very true that people are usually different on the phone compared to the way they act in person. However, if the two of you got along so well for so long in the past, I'd assume that it could only get better, right?? I think that you should consider this meeting a blessing. You have the remarkable chance to come face to face with someone that has had such a drastic impact on your life; someone who has undoubtedly been there for you, time after time; someone who offers nothing less than complete and uncondiational care. Now, you can not tell me that that doesn't mean a lot to you?? I say if you have this incredible opportunity, why would you want to deny it?
It's only natural to fear that you might dislike each other. And I'd be lying to say that the possibilty doesn't exist, because it does. However, I have faith in you to believe that you have picked a real winner here. I know that you're wise enough to be able to sense a jerk when you come upon one. If you have known him for so long... I'm almost positive that I can rest assure that he's not some judgemental asshole. If he cares for you so much ALREADY, he'd have to be absolutely out of his mind to disrespect you NOW, after being through so much, after flying such a distance, and spending so much money.
He's the one buying the tickets, right? Now, don't you think that he's thought about the fact that he may not like you!?!? Of course he has!! But he's still willing to spend his money purchasing tickets, isn't he?? And the USA to Australia can not be cheap! :P Sounds to me like worrying that he may not like you is not even a consideration here. He must not think anything of it - he just doesn't care!! He knows that there's more important things than a person's physical appearrance. And besides, you're ALREADY beautiful to him, trust me. All he wants is to see you; just to see the person that means the world to him.
I suggest going through with it.
I doubt it's a once in a lifetime opportunity, becase I've always been one to believe that if it was MEANT TO BE... it WILL BE, ya know? Taking that into consideration, it's my guess that even if you DIDN'T see him this time around...... that if it was truly meant to be... another chance will turn-up. However, it may not be for a very very long time, and you have to be willing to accept that fact.
Or what if you don't go through with this, and the opportunity to see him again DOESN'T come about?? Sure, life will go on.. but you'll forever wonder about him. You'll wonder where he is. You'll wonder who he's with. You'll wonder what he is doing. You'll wonder if he is happie. And maybe you'll wonder if he's married with kids. You'll also wonder what could have become.. IF.. you two had taken the chance to meet when it was there. I don't know about you, but living my life with such a large regret doesn't sound very pleasant to me. But, maybe that's just me?
The important thing to remember, is that it's YOUR decision, and no one else can feel FOR you. If you're having doubts, I suggest talking it over with him. Just tell him how you're feeling, and see what he can make of this all. Perhaps together, the two of you can come to some sort of conclusion.
But goodluck deciding. Hopefully things work out. Know that you can always come to me if you ever feel the need. [:
♥ Mackenzie ♥
(If you're willing to come back and tell me how things turned out or what your decision was, I'd be more than thrilled for an update! :])
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